If your husband has children from the previous marriage, it is very important to build up with them the correct relationship. Jealousy, hostility or ostentatious indifference in relation to them the spouse will only upset and will worsen your family relations.
Instruction
1. If you fell in love with the man with all his merits and demerits, accept also his past. It is possible to get divorced from wife, but children former are not. Show a maximum of a step and patience, try to come into contact with the spouse's children, he will surely estimate it and will be grateful to you.
2. Do not rush to extremes and do not try to become for them the second mom. For a start will be rather quiet and friendly communication. If you see what to children hard is near you, do not insist on constant joint walks. Until you get used to each other, let the husband meet them in the neutral territory.
3. Whether ask the husband has some restrictions on food at children. An allergy, a special diet or unloved food – find out all subtleties. Arrange a family lunch: prepare their favourite dish or you go to restaurant or children's cafe. Sincerely be interested in their life, progress, dreams and plans.
4. Learn what children are fond of that they love and than do in the spare time. Present them necessary things or devices for a hobby. Buy tickets for the movie with their favourite actor and you go all together to movie theater. Such pastime does not demand active communication, but will help you to come into closer contact.
5. Be ready that children of the husband will apprehend you in bayonets and will begin to provoke to the conflict. A divorce of parents it becomes frequent for children (especially small) the real shock. And the new father's girlfriend looks in their eyes the destructor of family even if it not so. Be quiet and tactful, and issues of education, including encouragement and punishments leave them to the father. You do not speak badly about the ex-wife at all, for children is native mom and a careless rough word in her address will automatically make you the enemy No 1.
6. If, despite all attempts, you did not manage to improve the relations with the husband's children, grant them the right to communicate with the father without your presence. Be wiser and respect fatherly feelings of the spouse. When you have the general child, he needs the faithful and loving dad.