The reason of the majority of problems and complexes of adults lies in their childhood - it is known by all. Psychologists assure that the cause is conscious and unconscious parental installations with which they stuff the children from a mladenchestvo. Rare mothers and fathers think that all their phrases form the hidden moral installation. Especially significantly everything that is told the child up to 5 years since to this age children perceive information at the subconscious level.
Instruction
1. Often parents tell to children such phrases as: ""Grief, you mine..." ", " "All have children as children, and you....." ", " "You are very bad boy..."". The child is more senior than 5 years, will turn to these words a deaf ear, and here the kid who did not reach this age will absorb in himself this information at the emotional level, will note discontent in the parent's voice, and these words will strongly become stronger in his subconsciousness. At the child the sense of guilt begins to be formed, it has no critical thinking yet - he perceives everything literally. For the kid these words - unconscious installation for the rest of life.
2. Bringing up the child all of us want to see results of the works. Therefore often we say: "" Mom will take offense if you do not make......"", ""You at me the good girl, but have to do....."". These phrases - unconscious order, the hidden threat of punishment in case of disobedience of the child. If to use such formulations often, then at the child the installation is formed that, it is possible to deserve love only obedience.
3. Some mothers, for education, tell the child about difficult childbirth, about what it offered for the sake of it as to it it was heavy, thereby unconsciously inspiring in the child sense of guilt for the birth. Even in an adult state he will consider himself by a hindrance in life of parents, testing fault for the fact of the existence.
4. Dangerously also constantly to repeat to the child that long ago it is time for it to mature. All children's desires are so inhibited. Phrases, type: ""It is a shame to cry because of..." "or" "It is shameful to be afraid...."" - close the course to emotions of the child, do them forbidden for it. And further it will result in emotional constraint, inability to show the emotions.