"Lonely fathers" - the phenomenon in modern life quite frequent. Statistically, every eighth family - the fathers raising the children without mother. The reasons for which the father should bring up the child alone, a set. It and stains when by a court decision the child remains with the father, both the death of the wife, and deprivation of mother of the parental rights.
Instruction
1. First of all, get it together. You do not retire into oneself and do not become isolated in the loneliness. It is not necessary to build the closed world. Address for council other women familiar to families, fellow workers and, of course, relatives.
2. Do not hesitate to address to social services with the problems. In many cities there are psychological support services. Look for adherents, come into contact with the fathers who appeared in the same situation. Groups of single fathers are on all social networks, there you will be able to find companions in misfortune and in the city.
3. Pay attention to the budget. The status of the single father in many respects is not defined yet, and therefore many privileges and compensations put to mothersby -to singles will not be available to you. Perhaps, you should earn additionally somewhere.
4. Reduce a sit-round gathering in the men's companies. Find all free time for the child. The father always is for the child a partner and the adviser in games, support and a support at a difficult moment. Do not forget, the kid endures separation from mother much stronger, than you. Do not force it to endure also frequent separations from you.
5. If all of you are forced to be separated often from the child because of specifics of your work, do not forget to call as often as possible him, to write letters. You bring souvenirs and tell about those places where you visited. The child has to feel constantly your care, attention, love even if you is far.
6. Do not limit communication with mother if she exists. How to you communication with the former spouse was heavy, try not to give this negative to the child. Especially it is important for the son. The attitude towards mother will affect further the relation to a female in general and to the beloved in particular.
7. You should undertake female duties not only in the field of a household, but also in the sincere sphere. Create the friendly, emotional atmosphere in the house. Give to the child more heat, gentle caress.
8. Do not hesitate to embrace him, to show the feelings. Tactile feelings are very important for formation at the child of feeling of safety and peace of mind. Without these "sloppy sentimentality" the child will grow up stale, rigid and not capable to sympathize and empathize.
9. Correctly organize the mode. The child has to go to bed in time, in due time do homework and have a rest. Try that holiday was mostly active and developing. The sport will become your reliable assistant. Write down the child in sports section, together visit various competitions. Form the team. It will unite you and will give more common ground.
10. Besides sport also other common interests – music, movies, books are important. Be interested in opinion of the child more often, do not refuse communication with it, referring to employment. It will strengthen your relations, will create the atmosphere of trust and spiritual proximity.