It is much easier to accustom the child to discipline if between parents and the kid the mutual understanding was established. Difficult children can constantly test parents for durability. Parents often suffer because children do not regret the bad behavior.
Instruction
1. Difficult children do not show signs of repentance so often as far as their parents would like. But the situation will only become aggravated if adults try to obtain repentance. Children lack an emotional maturity and ability to cope with vital difficulties therefore they test adults. If parents react to it too emotionally, then the attempt to discipline the child will not be crowned with success. To avoid such trap, it is necessary to know that difficult children can regret too.
2. When adults hear about discipline, they often perceive it as a concept - educational measures. It, in turn, means punishment, deprivation of pleasures. Educational measures in itself will not impart to the child feeling of self-esteem, skills to solve problems, self-checking and responsibility. They will not work without sensitive participation of the adult. The method of reliable discipline is based on love and the management. It is necessary to explain to the child what behavior is considered appropriate and what is not present. It is necessary not to forget that the help in understanding of how it is necessary to be responsible for the acts is necessary for difficult children, to study on the mistakes and to treat people around, despite everything kindly.
3. The parent of the difficult child is obliged to know how unpredictable can be reaction on his behavior. And all because too weak or on the contrary, very severe educational measures, the child can regard as humiliating punishment. As difficult children consider that they are with parents as equals, they begin to protest against punishment.
4. If the child does not regret for the actions or does not recognize them, it directs the anger against the one who takes in relation to it certain measures or punishments. Instead of regretting and it is more not to do so difficult children not only do not test any remorse, but also express the anger. And all because pressure from the adult is perceived by the difficult child in the distorted form. In particular, the child proves that he did not make anything bad, and any measures taken in relation to him were unfair.
5. It is necessary to think of how it is correct to take educational measures well. Punishment is always the controversial decision.