Education of the first child is always accompanied by difficulties for young parents because everything occurs for the first time. How to feed how to swaddle, and, especially, how to bring up. In the course of education at children socially useful qualities of the personality which formation happens from the first days of life are formed. Not without reason in the people say: "Bring up the child while he across a bench lies, but not along it".
Instruction
1. At education of the first child the parents are most often focused on knowledge gained in books or at lectures on pedagogics and psychology, but not all this knowledge has to be used as instructions to exact action. Being guided by features of the child, methods and methods of education undergo changes. Children differ in temperament, on health level, on degree of affection for parents, etc. In books, most often, the list of various methods of education is given: pick up those which suit your family, your child.
2. The first child, as a rule, gets love of all adults in his immediate environment. He gets used to such volume of love and adoration therefore he in the future expects both from kindergarten teachers, and from teachers of the same relation. The lack of love upsets him. Therefore for the first child in family it is important to create not only aura of unconditional acceptance, but also the system of requirements which execution needs to be controlled accurately.
3. At appearance of the second child in family, the senior child can appear in "a zone of inattention" of adults that provokes emergence of jealousy of the newborn and offense at parents. According to A. Adler, the child feels like the tsar dethroned. For decrease in his displeasure, parents have to distribute among themselves obligations for child care. It is necessary to notice and designate as often as possible progress of the first child, to praise him for the help, to involve in joint activity.
4. Modern children do not want to feel like seniors because on them the burden of responsibility for the younger brother or the sister lays down. They become an example for other children in family. And it is very difficult to be ideal all the time. Therefore it is necessary to tell phrases as little as possible: "You are a senior, you are an example for others, you have to …". Such requirements cause the child's resistance, and he begins to behave opposite. Now he wants to be not the tsar any more, and to feel at least on an equal basis with all other children in family.