Processes education of the boy and girl very much differ. To grow up the real man, it is desirable for mothers of sons to follow several simple, but very important rules.
Observance of these rules - not so complex business, many of them can seem so simple that to carry out them sort of and not necessarily. However, it not so. If you think how to bring up the son the real man, try to remember them always.
Never deride the son
The sneer of the woman is unpleasant to any of the man. The sneer of mother is a deep trauma for the boy. And even if it seems to you that an occasion frivolous, incorrectly put on trousers, either the drawing, or recognition of love to the neighbour's girl - be extremely accurate. He will remember your venomous remark well. And besides what the son any more will tell nothing to you and will not show, he will cease to trust you.
Answer all questions of the son
Do not wave away empty phrases ""you will grow up - you learn"". It needs your answer. You do not know - and tell. Learn and share knowledge with the son. His question forced you to redden? Perfectly, now you learned that you have a complex and it is necessary to work on it. But do not create these complexes to the son. Answer as it is possible more simply and more clear.
You ask the son for suggestions
It is necessary to consult on the boy in decision-making. It should decide all life. And to take the responsibility for the decisions. And secondly, you do not even represent what simple can be his answers to your difficult adult questions. What you would puzzle months over, you learn in two minutes. ""What has to be our future apartment" ", " "why I quarrel with somebody all the time?" "and" "what I do not so?"". Thank the son for council. Let him see that you respect him and trust it.
Do not pronounce words ""I spoke to you!!!""
You understood that you were right, and the son did not. Wonderfully, we congratulate. he will understand everything. Do you have not a competition to the son? It needs from you support now, but not a poke your superiority. By the way, and the child's dad from you should not hear these words.
You praise the son
You praise often, but apropos. Without everyones ""but"" and ""it is necessary to correct here"". Over time he will understand where there what needs to be corrected. And from mother he waits for admiration and recognition of his merits. Give it it.
Support his dreams
Even if to you they seem ridiculous and unreal. Wants to be the astronomer - buy books and show the movie about stars, wants to be the artist - buy paints and draw together with it. Be not afraid that he will grow up windy. He will grow up versatily developed. And he will be really defined in life in 18-20 years.
If the son cries
To console. Here what you have to make. What small to you the problem, for it it a big event, besides unpleasant would not seem. To whom to it still to bear the feelings? Accept these feelings carefully and regret the child. He should not never cry inconsolably-. For this purpose he also has mother.
Do not reprimand the son
Too never. This not only useless occupation, but even harmful. Everything that you want to inform the child of show an example.
You on its party
Always. You its support and protection. Then sometime it will become a support and protection for you. Without conditions and reservations. In shop, before teachers, in a dispute with foreign people - you always on the party of the son.
And here then, perhaps, it will come to you with a question, ""what is sex" "or" "how to invite the girl to a date"". Because knows, you will not shout or laugh at it. Because he trusts you.