When the child becomes a teenager, there comes the difficult period both for it, and for his parents. The son or the daughter ceases to obey, does not want to help about the house, is rude and snaps in response to all addresses of adults. Knowledge of features of psychology of the teenager will help to find a way out of current situation.
Instruction
1. At teenage age the child reconsiders all parties of the life. The rules imparted to it by parents and norms, behavior stereotypes are exposed to criticism. The aspiration to independence and self-affirmation comes out on top. The great value is gained by the relations with friends. Peers become an object for imitation. Understand that all manifestations of roughness, obstinacy and obstinacy are attempts to show resistance to parental dictatorship, pressure. The teenager begins to realize himself as the personality. He has a need for bigger quantity of the rights and freedom, than in the childhood. Without knowing how to receive the desirable, the child breaks and is rude from powerlessness. Teenagers worry because of the physical development and appearance. And such behavior is absolutely normal for awkward age.
2. Try to talk to the teenager as the adult is the only way to be heard. Try to have a talk frankly with the son or the daughter, ask how it is better to change your communication. Be interested in the teenager's relations with friends more. Be more democratic and remove total control. If the child wants to do something that is not the immoral, forbidden or too expensive pleasure, refuse the bans.
3. Respect its choice, do not reprimand the teenager about that, to put on properly. Do not reproach, and you tell about the feelings concerning the events. Listening to the statements of the child, allow it to have the opinion, not to agree with you. Try to explain the point of view, without imposing anything to the teenager. It is difficult, but in such way you will be able to establish between you the atmosphere of mutual respect.
4. Characteristic feature of the teenage period – the increased emotional tension and excitability. Quite often the child tries to touch the most sore points, accuses, calls bad parents. Do not accept a call not to allow to inflame to fight. Go to other room, cool down, but do not participate in such dispute. Try to be persistent and consecutive. Idle threats and severe punishments will receive only tough repulse and counteraction from your grown-up child.