All parents know that each child, even the most silent and well-mannered can be capricious. For example, if the kid is hungry, wants to sleep, was tired or got sick. But actually all these reasons only superficial, and the real whims hide in themselves much more serious reasons. "Root" is in family in which bring up the child. Correctly to bring up the capricious child, it is necessary to understand what parents are mistaken in what the kid answers with whims, and as a result to achieve that both parties were happy.
It is required to you
- - favourite toys of the child
Instruction
1. Do not forbid the child everything. Certainly, he it has to "is impossible" to know and understand a word. But such it has to "is impossible" to be some, the most necessary. If it is constant to child to forbid everything – as a result he will begin to protest and do everything on the contrary specially. Forbid what is really dangerous to him, his health and life.
2. Do not allow the child everything. The Japanese model of education of children at which everything is allowed to the child to certain age is known to much. But the child has to know that it is possible and that it is impossible. As he is a member of society – the child since childhood has to reckon with opinion and feelings of other people. Otherwise the child can grow up the egoist.
3. Maintain harmony in the family relations. Very often whims of the child are reflection of intra domestic surroundings. The kid grows in a situation of constant abuse and quarrels, naturally, his mentality suffers from it. At least, try not to quarrel and not to sort out the relations in the presence of the child.
4. Try to hear the child. Try to understand that the child wants to inform you, being capricious. Perhaps, behind whims there is something more serious. For example, serious disease of nervous system. Watch a condition of the child even after whims ended. It is possible that it is necessary to visit the doctor.
5. You teach the child to express the feelings verbally, without resorting to whims and shouts. For this purpose own example will well serve. Try to say in the presence of the child more often about what you feel. It is possible to organize theater with participation of favourite toys of the kid which will tell each other about the feelings and about how it is necessary to behave in society. As a rule, children often listen to councils of the toy friends.
6. Discuss a uniform educational technique with the family. That is, if one of family members forbids something to the child, then the others also have to forbid it. Very often children are capricious if, for example, mom forbids something to the child, and dad the same is resolves.
7. If the child raskapriznichatsya in the public place, and it was not succeeded to calm him, quietly take the kid on hands and depart somewhere to the crowded place. Quietly talk to the child. Allow it to express and calm down. Explain that you understand its feelings, but cannot give it now what he wants (for example if the hysterics is arranged concerning a new toy from shop).