Many parents are concerned by questions: how to construct the relations with the child how not to make mistakes which can turn back serious problems? Understanding of children's psychology promotes establishment of good contact with the child and prevents emergence of difficulties in communication with teenagers and adults.
Instruction
1. Pay to the child attention! Of course, at us, adult, there are a lot of necessary and important issues. But you do not bring a situation to what on the child of time does not remain. It very negatively affects children's mentality. Negative emotions will be postponed in subconsciousness and in the future will surely remind of themselves.
2. Trust. The child constantly hears: it "is impossible", "more quietly!", "more slowly!" Why? Because it is too small and does not understand much. And thereby we program his life: "do not trust the world, do not live at full capacity". How often we say a phrase: "Do not disturb, I will do it itself". And it is too hidden, programming, the message: "I doubt you!". It is better to say: "I trust you, I am convinced that you will be able". You are respectful to the child and trust. Help it to learn something, to master something, to learn the world.
3. Independence. Mothers complain: children take all our time. Why? Yes because many parents control each step of children, in interfering. Do not disturb the child better. He is with enthusiasm busy with something, to him it is interesting and important! Remember the feelings when you are distracted from an interesting and important work. So give it more freedom. For it it is useful, and you have time to have a rest.
4. Help. It is necessary to help, of course. Here you put only what sense in the word "help"? Remember: to help is to satisfy a request. And if the child does not ask, so and the help is not necessary. Here the child assembles the machine, and it is impossible in any way. Mom was tired to look at it, she quickly puts a design, and the kid angrily breaks it and again starts collecting. Before helping, take an interest whether your participation is necessary.
5. You do not speak with the child "from top to down". If you want to talk, especially on a serious subject, sit down, bend so that you were at one level, you look in the face to the kid.
6. Do not criticize the child, do not state him claims. If he made something not so, explain that, tell about offense consequences. The best option: you praise children for small victories, for independently performed work, etc. But everything is good moderately.
7. You speak to the child about the feelings. Even, if it is negative emotions. The kid will feel your state on your eyes, gestures, a pose. If you need to point that the child in something is wrong, you do not say a phrase: "You are wrong!", "You do it specially, to spite", etc. Share better the feelings concerning the incident and explain why they arose.
8. And – see the main thing through a prism of your expectations of the real child and the individual, allow it to be oneself and just you love it.