To appease the raged child happens not easy. Shouts, quarrels, scandals in public places... It is difficult to find the parent who would never face it. The method "can help with a similar situation I count up to three".
Instruction
1. First of all you need to calm down. Reject excess emotions, do not give in on provocation of the child, radiate confidence and tranquility. With finding of composure you will be helped by self-checking.
2. Take the child by hand. Accurately and distinctly say "I count up to three. Time". Pay attention that in your voice there should not be notes of nervousness or irritation. Only tranquility and reasonable educational severity.
3. Wait several seconds, watching reaction of the child.
4. If at once did not work, in the same quiet and confident tone say: "Two".
5. Wait for some more seconds.
6. If the expected changes in behavior of the child did not occur, time to say "Three" and to pass to a negative reinforcement came. In other words, the child should be punished.
7. As punishment it is possible to isolate the child from surrounding society (to stand in the corner, to take away in separate room). There can be books, a bed, but there should not be phone and means of an electronic communication. Thereby you show to the kid that behaving badly, he risks to be left without communication with you.
8. If episodes of bad behavior of the child repeat, again use this scheme. As soon as the child begins to misbehave, say: "I count up to three. Time". Over time he will acquire that behind this phrase if in time not to improve, punishment will follow. Subsequently, perhaps, will be enough only one this phrase that the child calmed down.
9. It should be noted that education of the child should not be based only on the principles of "training". Mutual understanding between the child and parents is very important. Quite often difficult character of the child is caused by the unsuccessful atmosphere in family. Make contact with the child, talk to it, trust it – the child will estimate your trust and for certain will try to pay back you with the same.