The teenage age brings many difficulties to both the teenager, and his parents. Nervousness and conflictness of the child, painful reaction to rather harmless phrases can bring parents into bewilderment. But if they know what happens to it, then will be able to choose the most correct options of communication.
Instruction
1. In the period of teenage age in mentality of the child there are significant changes. Perceiving information on the world around, the teenager immediately correlates it to himself. His nervous system is overloaded therefore one wrong word that he "exploded" suffices. During this period it is important to develop the correct style of communication allowing not to injure mentality of the child to calm him if in it there is a need.
2. The most important that is necessary for communication with the teenager - it is his trust to you. But at the expense of what it arises? The child has to know that whatever offense he made, you will not abuse it and especially to punish. The quiet explanation of mistakes, a benevolent conversation is much more effective than shout and threats. By the time of approach of teenage age your child has to know that there is no such problem or a question with which it could not approach you.
3. It is very important that the child respected you - it is one of factors of emergence of trust. If there is no respect, your words will be useless. The teenager is an extremist and will not begin to listen to the one who is not for him an authority.
4. If there is a trust, a lot of things become simpler. Seeing that your child is upset with something, you can try to talk to him. To try – he can give a hostile reception to any your words. Do not ask him "What it happened?", such question can provoke fit of anger only. Softly and unostentatiously take an interest as there are affairs. If the teenager, having muttered "normally", runs away, do not stick to him, wait for more propitious moment. In case on its reaction it is visible that he is ready to speak, ask that at him new. The child can tell you about events of day, including tell also of the problems. Having learned the reason of its frustration, you will be able already to help it concrete council.
5. A good way to calm the teenager is switching of its attention from the negative thoughts tormenting him to something else. Do not suggest it to be engaged in something interesting – for example, to play soccer, chess, etc. In its state such offer can be regarded as a sneer. Ask it to help you with some business - such option is much more effective. No matter, that it will be – repair of a door, the crane, computer or something else. The child will hardly deny to you assistance, work will help it to distract from unpleasant thoughts. Then, already in quietly situation, you can try to find out an essence of its problem and to help to cope with it.