The child tries to find himself in teenage age therefore can easily stumble. The parents wishing to change a way of life of the teenager have to help it with self-expression and also brighten up its leisure by bright emotions.
To explain the reason of desirable changes
Teenage age - the difficult transition period in human life connected with hormonal reorganization of an organism. The child begins to feel like the adult, tries to make independently decisions, to form the point of view, to choose examples for imitation, etc. In a word, he lays the foundation for the future way of life with which his parents often do not agree.
To influence the problem teenager and to break his stereotypes, adults often resort to radical methods – deprivation of pocket money and house arrests. However thus they move away from the child, creating between it and themselves a chasm of mistrust and a lie. That the teenager changed a way of life, he has to want it, otherwise nothing will turn out. Adults can only direct the child to true let, specify the reason for which he has to revise the behavior, and no more than that.
To help with self-expression
If parents see that the teenager, trying to find the "I", promptly moves in the wrong direction, it is necessary to offer it alternative methods of self-expression. Sports or creative circles on which the child could disclose the talents will become a great option. With each new success the self-assessment of the teenager will increase, he will behave more confidently in the company of peers. Of course, talents of the child should be disclosed at earlier age, however better late than never. Psychologists claim that the visualization board rather strongly can affect consciousness of teenagers. It can be made easily in house conditions. For this purpose will be necessary: a Whatman paper, glue, scissors and cuttings from favourite magazines of the child. Let the teenager itself will choose what objectives in the future he would like to achieve what things he would like to get on whom would like to equal. Every day, looking at a visualization board, he will aspire to the best.
To distract from a habitual way of life
Often the teenager tries to try everything – today he listens to classical music, tomorrow – hard rock, today it goes to ballroom dances, tomorrow – to boxing or karate. Parents have to understand that at this age the children have no continuous hobbies therefore you should not panic ahead of time. If parents surely decided that they want to introduce amendments in a way of life of the child, in the best way will be to distract it from habitual pastime and to show that in the world there are a lot more novel fascinating things. For example, if the teenager excessively is fond of computer games, it is possible to go with him to a fascinating travel on which he would get a maximum of bright emotions. If the teenager is on the contrary excessively active, a great idea will be to organize evenings of house leisure when all family members gather at one table for a game in checkers, chess, cards, etc. It is necessary to remember that at teenage age of the child it is simpler to distract from a negative image of life, than to cardinally change it. Gradually replacing addictions of the child with useful, parents will be able to achieve desirable result.