Quite often at kids of two-year age it is possible to observe surges in aggression. It can be directed both to strangers, and to close people. The task of parents is to teach the child to express the anger and negative emotions in other, less aggressive ways.
Reasons of children's aggression
There is a mass of the reasons which provoke aggressive behavior of the child. For example, inattention of parents, ignoring of elementary requests and needs of the kid. An important role is played by education methods. If in family shouts, abuse and physical abuse are admissible, then and the child will copy such behavior of adults.
You should not forget that at children the character begins to be built up actively at the age of 2-3 years. The little man begins to strive for independence and to defend the "I" in various ways, including showing aggression.
Ways of fight against aggressive behavior of the child
Talk to the kid, explain that the anger is a normal reaction, but the aggressive behavior can offend and do harm (physical including) to the people surrounding it. Teach the child to cope with aggression. There are different ways: to deeply breathe, beat a pillow or to shout loudly, having released rage outside. Find more time for the child, perhaps, the kid just wants to draw with the aggressive behavior attention of parents. Accustom the child to tell everything to you, not to keep in itself anger and offense, and at once to say about what called them. Thus, having spoken and having resolved a situation, you extinguish the conflict in the beginning and will not allow it to pour out in rage and a fight.
Practice "to hit back" to the child is not constructive. As a result he will think that use of physical force is a correct answer to the one who upsets or angers him.
In response to aggression from the child be not irritated, and show that you are upset and offended. Let the child, be a little discharged, tell that so it is impossible to behave. It is possible to come to some time from the room. Only it is not necessary to build grimaces and to cry falsely − children feel falseness. Listen to desires and requirements of the child. It is possible that some of them are quite logical and proved, and their performance will not make special work. Frequent ignoring of desires of the kid forces the child to defend the position and the place in family including by quite aggressive methods (fights, a hysterics). The child has to understand that though senior and main in family, he is important and loved too.
Limit watching TV and accurately regulate time spent behind computer games. Observe a day regimen, it disciplines and creates sense of stability and safety at the child.
Active sports activities, especially martial arts will help to reduce aggression (karate, sambo). Dances, driving by bicycle, active games in the fresh air will help to dump emotional pressure and will strengthen health of the kid.