Children's hysterics – not an unusual occurrence. It begins at the age of about two years and is search result the child of ways of communication with people for receiving the fact that it is necessary for it. Usually the hysterics in behavior of the child disappears by four years, but sometimes it proves also at later age. To cope with it, it is necessary to work consistently.
The most important mistake which parents can make – to answer the child's hysterics with own hysterics. You have to have the calming impact on the child if you cannot constrain yourself, expect tranquility from the child there is no sense. When your child goes into a hysterics, calm down, listen to him and make several big breaths before making any decisions.
In most cases parents consider that the hysterics of the child is his attempt to achieve the objective. However it not always so, can be the cause of a hysterics, for example, lack of due consideration or a physical indisposition (problems with digestion, the lowered sugar level in blood, etc.). Also the lack of a dream and insufficiency of food can be the cause of hysterical behavior. Define the exact reason of a hysterics before beginning to fight against it.
Give to the child the choice
If your child suits a hysterics with the requirement, any things, it is not necessary to speak to him simply "no". Instead give it the choice, for example, if he too often eats candies and constantly asks them, tell it, something he will eat them at a table, or will be punished. Always you praise it if he makes a right choice. The choice helps the child to see consequences of the actions.
Such approach yields result with children of 2 - 4 years more often and badly works with children of advanced age. The earlier you will begin to accustom the child to choose own behavior, the better.
Depending on the reasons of a hysterics it is necessary to work as appropriate. If the child wants to eat, feed and put him to bed as soon as possible. If he is afraid of something, try to calm him. If the child asks to play with him, do not refuse to him it means that you give it attention not enough. However do not concede to the child at all if the hysterics is result of a whim, otherwise you will develop at it a habit to try to obtain the only in such a way. Let it know what you will tell with it, only when he will calm down. Only after that start discussion with it its problems.
It is impossible to be limited only to encourage the child for good behavior. He has to feel and know that for bad behavior the punishment will surely follow.
Do not argue
Never argue with the child if he continues to show rough discontent and the hysteric proceeds. Instead you tell him words which characterize his emotions. For example: "You, has to be, was tired today" or "You, probably, are strongly upset with the fact that you do not have it". Such words will show it that you understand it and sympathize, besides, they will help it to express the thoughts in the future.
Talk to it about his behavior
To speak with the child about his behavior during a hysterics it is useless. Leave this conversation for later, but surely talk to it. Try to find out from it why he so behaves, but you do not press on him, the child has to feel that you love it anyway.