From where do self-assured people undertake? As a rule, confidence comes with life experience therefore children at whom it is still small in formation of an adequate self-assessment will be come to the rescue by the loving and wise parents.
It is required to you
- love for the child, patience, ability to listen, keenness, readiness to help
Instruction
1. Cultivate at the child feeling of self-esteem from the earliest age. The kid has to understand that you are sure of his forces. Emphasize its strengths and do not reproach for weaknesses. You say more often: "At you everything surely will turn out", "You by all means will cope", "You cope better and better".
2. Give to the child an opportunity to play. Through a game children learn about themselves more, people and the world around, learn to solve the first problems.
3. Assign certain duties to the child. So he will understand that trust it and need its help.
4. You learn not to be afraid to finish the begun business. If at the child it is impossible to solve any problem, support him. Help to spread out a difficult task to simpler actions with which the child is able to cope independently. It is possible to offer the child several ways of the solution of a task (if he does not see them yet), but to leave the final choice to the kid.
5. Compare the child not to other children (even if comparison in its advantage), and its "today's" to him "yesterday's". You learn to see also yourself "tomorrow's", always leaving to the child chance to change for the better. Such approach creates favorable circumstances for formation of confidence in the opportunities.
6. Accept the child it what he is. Even small victories of the child over by itself have to be noticed by you. You appreciate everything even if you wait for other achievements.
7. You do not seek to warn each step of the kid. Hyper guardianship keeps the child in constant suspense, undermining his self-confidence.
8. It is not necessary to go also into other extremes – the indifferent relation to children's problems. Fight against difficulties in private can break character at the very beginning of its formation. Therefore be nearby, ready always to come to the rescue of it.
9. Teach your child to express the desires and feelings directly. Timid children often follow the tastes of others opinions because are not able to explain that they want.
10. Allow the kid to argue at least sometimes with you and also to convince you of something very important for him. Allow it to arrive at least once as he finds necessary even if you categorically do not agree with it. Ability to argue the point of view – one of lines of the self-assured person.
11. Impart to the child the joy of communication with other people. Invite on a visit the friends and friends of the kid, you visit. Is more often together be in crowded places, the museums and theaters.
12. You teach the child to understand that all people cannot please – what will be advantage in the opinion of one person, another can consider a shortcoming.