How does the will of the person and also from what age it is possible to cultivate strong-willed qualities at the kid develop? This question is very important for everyone who has children and also who want to grow up them the courageous, firm and stood people. In turn, the will is not inherited quality of the person. The child is not born with already ready strong or weak will, it cannot be descended. Such quality is formed in the course of education of the kid.
Instruction
1. If the child is always surrounded with excessive guardianship of adults and also he should not use any efforts in achievement of the desirable, then hardly the person possessing resistant statements and strong character will grow up from such child.
2. Sometimes parents say: ""Well what else can be expected from the three-year-old child? He is still absolutely small and understands nothing. Here when he will grow up then we will ask"". However this wrong judgment. To demand from the kid, of course, only within his opportunities, it is necessary from the earliest age, since that moment when the baby begins to understand the speech turned to it, and itself seizes it.
3. At the same time the mature will is very mature quality. Naturally, in this case it is impossible to speak about will absolutely still of the small child in understanding which invests in value of mature will at the adult. However it is possible to speak about rudiments of manifestations of will even at small children. Such rudiments are expressed: - available at the child of a certain aspiration to achievement of the goal; - in preservation of this purpose, despite a delay or the distracting moments; - in ability to a delay or delay of the desire, that is existence of patience; - in ability to overcome the unwillingness for the sake of achievement of the goal.
4. To develop these inclinations, it is necessary to follow firmly in education of the child certain rules. First of all a certain day regimen and the schedule has to be set in order that the child knew for sure how when and that he has to do: to rise, walk, eat, go to bed, to wash hands before food, before going to bed to remove toys. All this accustoms the kid to accuracy and this most contributes to the development of strong-willed lines of its character.
5. Adults should be always very honest with the child, that is always to keep the word. Often so happens: to console the kid, promise him a lot of things - and to buy toys, and to play phone, and to take for a drive on a swing. In this case the child ceases to cry or be capricious, but expects promised. Adults forget about own promise at once and sometimes do not carry out it. As a result the child gets used not to trust promises of parents. And also itself it is accustomed to make easily certain promises, and subsequently not to carry out them. At the same time it does not cultivate responsibility for the words. And on the contrary, the irresponsibility and lack of will begins to develop.
6. Gradually cultivate ability to seize own desires, feelings in the child, accustom him to restrain, win against the sensation of fear, pains and also offenses. All this strengthens and trains him will.