Sometimes children, copying behavior model of adults, are rude, are rude and are called. And this aggression can be directed both to peers, and to adults – parents, tutors, teachers and ordinary witnesses of a situation. It seems to children that so they look higher in the opinion of the interlocutor, only this way it is possible to assert the rights and to become significant. The task of parents is to teach younger generation to resolve issues not by means of force and roughness, and to look for a compromise and to learn to communicate culturally.
Instruction
1. Always react to any manifestations of roughness and rudeness directed by your child to any person. Do not leave such tricks unnoticed. Children often wait from parents of manifestation of reaction to their acts. And ignoring is perceived from their party as permission to similar actions.
2. Even if it seems to you that the roughness is appropriate in certain situations, define a framework of legal. Children have to learn to build the relations with peers and adults on respect to each other. While children do not understand this framework, it is difficult to them to understand that it is possible to offend strongly the person a rough word and sneers. And most it is possible to become subject to persecution and psychological violence.
3. Teach the child to solve the conflicts without fists and insults. Sometimes for this purpose it is necessary just to keep silent and not to provoke the offender to further provocations. Such position is alien to someone from parents, they consider that it is necessary to fight back, not to give themselves in offense. But it is possible to put the interlocutor into place and without rough words and insults, otherwise the conversation can develop into a large quarrel and it is unknown what to end. The more quietly the child will behave, the it is less than occasions at an aggressor him to touch.
4. The roughness at teenagers is connected with their aspiration to show the independence and maturity. But with them it is also necessary to behave extremely tactfully, especially at a statement to them the reproaches and remarks. During a transition period the teenagers should find even more time, than to kids. The world of the teenager is very difficult, and you have to be aware of his life, but is unostentatious, and sincerely being interested. Any of disrespect for parents or other people have to understand. But not scandals, and attempts to understand what actually caused such reaction.
5. The most important in education of the child of any age – a parental example. If you dare to be ill-bred in relation to other people, do not wait that your child will be the embodiment of intelligence. Children copy our behavior model, our words and our reaction in different circumstances. You watch yourself in the presence of children. Never sort out the relations with somebody at children. Show restraint in disputable and unpleasant situations when it seems to you that children do not hear you.