The behavior of the child sometimes is intolerable. It seems to parents that he intentionally enrages them and forces to shout. However such behavior is connected only with features of development of children. Parents need to remain quiet in any situation, for this purpose there is a set of ways.
Instruction
1. Not to shout at the child, sometimes happens rather just deeply to breathe. If the child does not obey and does not do what to him is told by parents, often there is desire to scold him. At this moment it is necessary to close eyes and to make several deep breaths. This way will help to calm down most, to collect the thoughts and to quietly consider further actions. Only after that it is possible to start communication with the child.
2. A widespread situation in which parents shout at the children is punishment for the wrong behavior. Parents often consider that if the child does something not so, it is necessary to punish him and, perhaps, to shout. However it absolutely not so. If the child makes a mistake, for example, beats the peer, to shout and say that he did not do it, there is no sense. Not to allow increase in a voice on the child in such situations, it is necessary to try to sort it quietly. The concrete act, but not the child has to be a subject of discussion.
3. Often parents make a mistake at communication with children who force them to shout at children subsequently. It occurs if parents speak with the child by the plaintive, asking voice. Children seldom react to such speech. It is necessary to speak soft, quiet, but at the same time by a firm voice. The child will be forced to listen and do what he is told. Such communication solves two problems. First, the child acquires better what he is told. Secondly, parents feel that listen to them, need to shout disappears by itself.
4. It is necessary to remember that children owing to the age are not able to express correctly all the feeling. Therefore to shout at them when they react to something unusually too senselessly. Instead it is necessary patiently to teach them to speak and speak about the emotions and feelings.
5. Idle threats also force parents to raise the voice on children. If parents threaten the child to stand him in the corner for disobedience, but at the same time do not carry out the threats, nothing in behavior of the child will change. As a result, parents are forced to repeat to them about inadmissibility of their actions again and again while they do not fly into a rage and do not begin to shout. You should not throw away idle threats punishment, they have to be finished.
6. If there is desire to shout at the child, it is necessary to put itself on his place. The child has self-respect and self-esteem too. For certain it will not be pleasant to parents if the chief constantly shouts at them. It is necessary to treat feelings of children in the same way, it is not necessary to force them to be ashamed or to be confused.