In 2-3 years children endure the first age crisis which psychologists often call crisis of independence. At this particular time it is recommended to disaccustom the child to a parental bed.
Instruction
1. That night sleep in a separate bed did not turn back a stress for the kid, it is possible to begin with a compromise solution. To continue to sleep with him on a bed of parents at night, and to stack one in the afternoon. Over time he will get used, as its bed – too a fine berth.
2. Observe a day regimen. If the kid is capricious, be strict, but do not break on shout. Explain with a quiet voice to the son or the daughter what on hours already arrows show to sleep and it is time to keep within a bed. The same time of rise and withdrawal for sleeping considerably will facilitate disaccustoming from a parental bed.
3. If the child refuses flatly to sleep without mom, take a big soft toy. In the first night it can lie somewhere in legs, and then gradually move it closer to the baby. Over time the toy has to be located between mom and the child. It is possible to resort to small cunning. To buy a toy in the form of a backpack and for the night to put inside a hot-water bottle. The kid will quickly get used to a warm toy.
4. Put a children's bed near a parental bed. Every day distance a berth of the kid on several centimeters. Do not forget to put its favourite toy nearby, to tell tender words, to tell fairy tales and to wish good night.
5. Process of disaccustoming of the child from a parental bed can take several months. It is necessary to have patience.
6. If all methods described above do not help, it is necessary to think of psychological climate in family. Perhaps, parents often quarrel or the child is frightened by darkness and loneliness. The reasons there can be a set. By 3-4 years the kid has to fall asleep quietly in the bed, without waking up at night and without showing concern. If it not so, consult with the children's psychologist.
7. In one wonderful night your kid will for the first time fall asleep one in the bed. Explain to him in the morning that he is a good fellow, praise, encourage with something. The positive motivation sometimes works wonders.
8. If the child falls asleep in the bed, but at night all the same comes to parents, you should not worry. When it happens the first time, the son or the daughter it is necessary to calm, tell several warm words, to see it to its bed, to cover with a blanket, it is a little to sit with it. On the second time it is enough only caress and repetition of actions. Communication by means of words should be excluded. On the third time just you see off the kid to his bed, lay and leave the room. Over time the child will understand that the decision to stack it separately final, and will get used to it.