The affection of the child for native mom is caused by the nature, but sometimes it is too strong. To disaccustom the kid to the mother means to cease to nurse him, to teach to sleep separately and to explain that sometimes mom should leave.
Instruction
1. Disaccustom the kid to feeding with a breast. This process is an embodiment of close connection between it and mother, but time when it has to become more independent comes. Reduce the number of feedings gradually, without taking away a breast from the child sharply and irrevocably. The last method can be painful not only for the kid, but also for you.
2. Begin to feed him from a small bottle not with mixes, and the decanted milk. It will help to smooth process of breaking from a breast. Perhaps, the child will refuse to eat from a small bottle when that is in mom's hands. In this case dad or the grandmother should feed him some time.
3. Do not try to disaccustom the kid to a breast by greasing with its mustard or brilliant green. These means are known in the people long ago, but they are capable to put to the baby the real psychological trauma.
4. Disaccustom the child to a dream in a parental bed. This problem comes later, than the end of feeding by a breast, but is not less serious. The child can independently come to you to a bed at night or cry and shout until you it allow him. Begin with a daytime sleep. Putting the child to bed in the afternoon, you do not lay down near it, and remain in vertical position. Surely stack it not on the, and on its own bed.
5. Put the child's bed near the. It is necessary to begin with small: your beds will adjoin, the child will always have an opportunity to feel your touch. Gradually begin to remove its bed. At first on ten, then on thirty centimeters, and so on. Put between your berths a barrier (for example, a bedside table or a box with toys). And only after several weeks, and, perhaps, and months, you will be able to transfer a bed and the child to other room.
6. Equip a berth of the child. If you disaccustom the kid to the bed in three-four years, it is necessary to entice something him in own space. Pictures on walls, bed linen with heroes of animated films, a children's night lamp - all this will create the necessary atmosphere and will help the child to accustom on the new place.
7. At first the kid can come to you at night. Tenderly embrace him and see off in a bed every time when he comes back. The shown persistence will show to the child that you are firm in the intentions.
8. The last step in inoculation of independence - ability of the child to be left without mom. The first year of life for the kid has to occurs under your supervision, he has to feel your presence and care. And here on the second - it is possible to begin to depart gradually on distance. For a start during the joint game leave for three-five minutes and come back with a smile upon the face, continuing study.
9. Continue to increase time of your partings, but slowly and gradually. In the middle of the way you will be able to leave the kid for an hour or two with the grandmother or dad, then per day, and in a year or two - will quietly manage to go on rest with the husband within three-five days. It is important not to hurry and tear off the child from mom. The sharpness in such business will put a trauma which will remain for the rest of life.