It is often inconvenient to parents to discuss a situation when their child took others thing or stole money. But in most cases not so everything is terrible: there is an opportunity to disaccustom him to take without the permission others things, it is enough to hold certain educational events for this purpose.
Instruction
1. Do not splash out on the child negative emotions at once. Try to find the possible reason of its theft though it can be veiled.
2. Think, and it can in such way gives to you signals that in life it lacks your caress, tenderness, attention and love. Having deficiency of love, maturing and losing affection for parents, he can feel absolutely lonely.
3. Be interested in how there are its relations with peers. To draw their attention to itself, to deserve friendship with them, it can give a stolen property to children. Acquaint the child with other methods of increase in the status among age-mates. Bring together his friends at home, play with children, organize a celebration, and do not forget to speak validly about the child, show as far as you reckon with his opinion.
4. You treat needs of your child more attentively. If he brought home a toy from the game room, then everything can be that thus his old dream was fulfilled. Do not allow situations when his long and steady desire discontentedly, causing excessive nervousness and tension. Give it a gift of which he so passionately and long dreamed, using at the same time an opportunity (birthday, some achievement or success of the child).
5. If the child brought the toy belonging to the age-mate try to find out nuances of their relationship. What can stand behind such act – desire to make friends with this child, to draw his attention or, on the contrary, neglect to it?
6. Pay the attention to how he treats this act – regrets, considers what it is in the order of things or is ashamed. Your assessment of actions of the child has to be certain and sharp if sense of guilt in general is absent. Let it know that you are surprised by his behavior, and it is not pleasant to you. Express the confidence in what it the adult also understands what acts bad and what – good therefore similar will not repeat.
7. Do not focus on causing sense of guilt in the child if he understands that his act wrong, and paint better a picture of experiences of the one who lost the thing. At the same time develop strategy of return of a subject to the owner without excess humiliations.
8. Do not allow to condemn the child publicly and do not insist on demonstrative apologies. It is absolutely optional. Quite often everything to return impossibility on the places and fear to admit aggravate experiences of the child. Organize a meeting of children (it is desirable without adults) where transfer of a toy can take place.
9. Let know to the child that you do not approve theft in any its manifestation. Regularly explain to him why it is impossible to take others and a difference between strangers and the toys and things.
10. Help the child to acquire that theft will reveal sooner or later, and secret all the same will become obvious. The stolen thing should be returned, and under disapproving looks, and it is possible with a shame.
11. Send its energy "to the peaceful course". Find out that it is interesting to it (photography, sport, books, art). The person at whom life is filled with interesting affairs feels more necessary. And perhaps he will have a friend, at least one.
12. Teach the child to think of feelings of people around, to empathize. Acquaint him with the rule: "Arrive always as there is a wish that treated you", and explain sense on examples from the life.
13. If the child steals constantly and unjustly, show him to the neuropsychiatrist who as required will carry out correction.