For certain you had to witness such picture: in shop the kid is capricious and poor-mouths: "Ma - and - m, well please, buy-ii ….". Mother answers it: "As I was bothered by your whims!!!" And... concedes.
After mother usually complains that nothing can do with whims of the beloved child. What here can be told? She already made everything that the child became whimsical. She is guilty itself that indulges whims of the kid, and at the same time undertakes nothing to disaccustom him to poor-mouth and be capricious.
And children studies everything at the parents! Newborns if something is required to them, report about it loud shout. When the kid grows up, learns to own the voice. Also begins, like the true researcher to experiment with the intonations. So in what way parents react to any given intonation of the child, in many respects depends whether it will begin to apply it in communication with them or not.
What the most valuable to the kid in this world? Toys? At modern children is them enough. Food? Kids and so receive it. Clothes? Most of children are indifferent to clothes, and even in general hate it. Most important and valuable to any child is a love and caress.
Here the kid began to whimper. (You remember: the hnykanye is for the present not the requirement, it is only an experiment!) Mom immediately runs up to him, a beret on hands, is sorry. What is remembered by the kid? "If it is necessary to get mother's caress and approval, it is necessary to begin to whimper!" Then the child will open for himself that whims and crying it is possible to achieve from parents still what useful to himself. What to do in such situations? Not to approach the child when that cries? Of course it is necessary to approach! To approach and, first of all, to check whether in the business the kid needs your help. If this is so, it is necessary to help surely. But if crying of the child is caused by the fact that the child, for example, cannot reach the toy which attracted to it, you should not give it this toy even if a hnykanye to turn into loud crying. = It is necessary to try to distract attention of the child other toy or an interesting bagatelle, to wait until he shows to it interest and only then it is possible to take the kid on hands. This, apparently, easy way, works smoothly! In case the kid already got used to try to obtain everything the whims, efforts it is necessary to apply much more to disaccustom him to this manner. However, if you stock up with patience and will not indulge the child's whims, the result will not keep itself waiting.