Today many pediatricians and psychologists are inclined to claim that the joint dream helps to keep contact between the child and his parents. At the same time some experts are sure of the return: they assure that the joint dream of parents with children does harm to both children, and adults. In general approach to such phenomenon as a joint dream, has to be especially individual.
If your child sleeps together with you, and you do not feel from it any discomfort – there are no reasons to refuse a joint dream. Often the child sleeps in a bed with parents much more quietly, than in the bed. At the same time it is not necessary to allow the child to sleep too long in a parental bed – at the age of two-three years better to disaccustom him to sleep with parents. Children at this age endure the first crisis of independence, learn to declare the rights and make own choice. Therefore parents should give to the child the chance to sleep separately, and in every possible way to stimulate him that he seized this opportunity.
Process of breaking of the child from a joint dream with parents has to be gradual – for example, it is possible to stack the child of one in the bed during a daytime sleep. If the child painfully reacts to changes, try to put a large soft toy in a bed. It needs to be put between you and the child that he got used to sleep near a toy. Over time it can be moved to a children's bed and to put the child to bed near it.
Sometimes it is very difficult to disaccustom children to sleep with parents – kids begin to be capricious, roll up hysterics, to sleep badly at night. In this case it is possible to put a children's bed closely to parental and to gradually move the child together with the toy loved softly towards his berth. After the child gets used to sleep near parents, but in own separate bed, it is possible to begin to remove gradually a bed to an opposite wall. Over time the child will get used to sleep one, and the bed can be rearranged without serious consequences to other room.
If the child who already sleeps separately from parents often comes to you to the bedroom at night, it is necessary to behave correctly with him. As soon as he for the first time in a night comes to you to the bedroom, calm him, and then you carry out to the children's room, put to bed and cover with a blanket. If the child comes repeatedly, can embrace him, but try not to talk to him – just silently you lead him to the nursery and put to bed. If the child comes to the third time, do not come to it into contact – just take away it and track that he laid down in a bed. At the beginning children can come many times in a night to the bedroom to parents, but you should not abuse them. Just show to the child that you do not intend to depart from the decision – as soon as he understands it, he will begin to sleep peacefully in an own bed at once.