People in the life often are masked and play roles. The same person in different circumstances and with different people can prove from the different party. Sometimes gets used to a certain role of people so that this it becomes his typical behavior model. It can be a role of the savior, an aggressor, the victim, etc. The behavior of the victim in society meets quite often.
As the victims behave
It is simple to distinguish the person with behavior of the victim. As a rule, on it a little time is required. Though, of course, such behavior can be peculiar to different people in different degree - at someone it is activated only in difficult situations, and for someone it is a way of life.
The typical person victim is dissatisfied with something eternally. It seems that it has an array of problems, and people around first can even have a desire something to help unfortunate. However after a while they will find out that in his life nothing changed as the person has amazing ability to create all new problems from nothing. And when someone offers him an exit from a difficult situation, he in detail explains why this decision does not suit it.
In understanding of the person victim his life entirely depends on circumstances and other people because to operate it - not in his forces. Everything that he can - it is to adapt. Move him the internal installations "Nothing Depends on Me", "I Can Change Nothing". If he nevertheless has to make efforts in any situation and to change habitual course of action, it is covered by concern and despair. Therefore the victims so like to put affairs away for later and to think out to themselves justifications.
Reasons of behavior of the victim
Actually it is convenient to person victim to live as he lives, without being beyond a comfort zone. He can even not realize that he could change easily the life if wanted and made some efforts. However it not necessarily means that he specially fools people around for the sake of obtaining attention, sympathy and small benefits in the form of the help. He can be really unfortunate and sincerely to wish changes, but something always disturbs him. It can be some psychological trauma from the childhood or later period of life. For example, if parents criticized the child, constantly pointed to him to his mistakes, the belief in the insolvency and inability to make something well could be postponed at him at the level of subconsciousness. Having become the adult, the person with a syndrome of the learned helplessness often feels as the loser, and in a difficult situation at it hands reflex fall and panic begins. As seldom as possible to test bitterness of defeats and feeling of powerlessness, he can become reserved, avoid responsibility and complex work, be content with mediocre life. The person with consciousness of the victim can change this inefficient stereotype of behavior if realizes it and will try to behave in habitual situations in a new way as an active character, but not as the passive observer. Having several times seen positive result of the efforts and having made sure that a lot of things depend on it, it will be able to get rid of a complex. If fears are very strong, perhaps, it is necessary to address for consultation the psychologist.