You can feel approach of crisis of three years both in 2.5, and in 3.5 years. It is defined by that how independent your kid feels. The main reason for sharp change of behavior of the child is that he begins to realize accurately himself the individual, but not a part of mom.
Instruction
1. First of all, try to look at a situation the child's eyes. Till some moment he almost completely was dependent on mother psychologically. The kid, of course, could show character and be malicious sometimes, but at emergence of a dilemma ""I or mom"", he in most cases joined mother's opinion. But suddenly the baby begins to understand what a lot of things can already make. Notices that adults can be manipulated, tries to try on on himself social roles which sees in the environment surrounding it. And a result of these feelings is that the child strongly defends ""egoism"" and independence.
2. You do not press on the child. The kid sees that he still can do not all itself and besides constantly feels control and guardianship from adults. All these factors lead to emergence of the internal conflict protest which psychologists call crisis of three-year age. And your pressure only aggravates a problem.
3. Consider if crisis is shown at the child very strongly, it is sign that you are too authoritative or giperopekat it. And, first of all, it is necessary to reconsider the relation to the child. Main manifestations of crisis: negativism, obstinacy, harm, ""I"", conflictness, change of values, aspiration ""to the power"". Even if at your child all these signs were shown, it does not mean that further they will blossom and develop. It needs to be worried, but to worry with the correct relation and reaction. Then everything will pass quickly enough.
4. At signs of negativism, obstinacy, obstinacy the main rule - try to refuse mandative tone and pressure. Give it the alternative accepted for both of you or just distract attention and allow to depart from negative emotions. After that you will quickly find a common language. It is necessary to give to the kid the chance to get out of a conflict situation with advantage. Of course, if desired, you will overcome it, forces are not equal. But for full personal development of the child it is necessary to let to it know that reckon with his opinion, and he can make some decisions too.
5. The parental patience very often is not enough for constantly arising ""I"". But understand that for the three-year-old it is very important to feel the independence. And even if you know that he will not cope, give him the chance to try and make sure of it.
6. If the kid regularly creates conflict situations, trying to achieve the, is a check of a possibility of manipulation with parents. Understand it, but show hardness in decisions if you are sure of their need. Explain to the baby as why you do, be quiet and benevolent.
7. Try to pay to the kid more attention and love that it had no need to try to obtain it by ""power methods"", but show hardness where it is really necessary. Manipulations can practice also at aspiration of the kid to the power in family, especially often it is shown if parents too indulge the child or as sign of jealousy.