Children always very strongly endure parting of the parents. A divorce for the child are a sharp psychological trauma. The world in which he got used to live collapses, and the closest and dear people become traitors. The child feels unfortunate, losing in the life something very important and valuable. At this difficult moment he needs to feel care and love of both parents.
Instruction
1. For a start collect the strength, thoughts and tell the child about the forthcoming divorce. Remember that at a conversation there have to be both parents. It is better to pick up for a conversation a right moment in advance.
2. It is very important that the child did not feel unnecessary. Explain that even after the divorce the parents will always be with it. Convince the child that nobody throws him. The kid should not feel like the guilty person divorced of the parents. Tell him that you very strongly love it and you will always be near.
3. Keep calm and you are positive to life. Try to protect the child from the conflicts with the former half.
4. You do not speak badly about the former spouse. Convince the kid that he will be able always to meet him.
5. Try not to sort out the relations in the presence of the child, kind of you wanted it. You remember, this you risk to force the child to take any given part.
6. Be honest and open. Tell the child about how life of mom and dad after the divorce will change. Try to answer all his questions sincerely. You should have from it no secrets.
7. For some time limit the child from communication with relatives who tell various mucks about parents. Remember that and without them it is very difficult for it to endure a divorce of parents.
8. Do not forbid the child to communicate with other parent. Do not forget that he equally loves both mom, and dad.
9. Try to fill the child's life with new classes and hobbies. Provide him active life that he could distract from sad thoughts. You praise more often and encourage the child in any his undertakings. Get pets. Go to have a rest.
10. Your child has to feel that the changes which happened in family not as will not be reflected in his life, and mom with dad very strongly love him and will make all necessary that he was happy.