Sometimes not only adults, but also children should face death. Or the kid, having heard information, unclear for itself, asks you such inconvenient question. The task of the parent is not to become puzzled and answer so that not to frighten the child.
Instruction
1. Do not wave away from inconvenient questions of the child and you do not say at all that to the kid still early to think of it. If your child wanted to find this information, then it will achieve the. Often children think out the legend that happens to the died people. If you do not want your child to have inexplicable fears, satisfy his curiosity better.
2. With what tone you will answer the child, will affect his relation to death. If you are frightened or become angry, the kid will feel your emotions and will decide that death – it is terrible or it is impossible to ask about it. Talk to the child equal and quiet tone.
3. Tell that the died person ceases to eat, breathe. To him it is not painful any more, not cold and it is not a pity. You should not say that the dead fell asleep. In this case the kid can have a fear of falling asleep of which to get rid will be difficult. Also you should not use phrases like "it left", otherwise next time the kid will suit you a hysterics when you go to shop.
4. Proceeding from your outlook, explain to the child about soul. Even if you the atheist, it is important to kid to know the fact that he will not disappear completely. It is necessary to emphasize that the person who is buried is not close the kid. Soul departed on the sky, and what remained – only a cover.
5. Practically each child begins to ask a question whether his parents will die. Aged, when children learn about death, they are still too dependent, possible separation from parents horrifies them. You can tell the child that when all of you grow old, the family in full strength will move on the sky. The child of four-five years will not think of an age difference and realizes a dirty trick only when becomes more senior and will be able to accept this fact.
6. After this usually begins to concern with the child's question whether he will die. Tell that it happens in many years after the kid has children, and then grandchildren, and he will become old. It sets to the child a positive spirit for further life. You can also add that, perhaps, scientists will manage to create medicine for death by then.
7. Explain to the child funeral rituals. Tell that bodies of the dead are put in graves, and then to the earth plant flowers that it was beautiful. What close people who died love when they are remembered by live. That they watch the child from the sky and if necessary can give to it advice.