Most of all conflict situations arises as it is paradoxical, between the dearest people – parents and children. Therefore it is very important to teach to make the child since childhood a compromise to resolve a conflict situation. How to reach a compromise with own child?
Why relatives quarrel
The people are closer to each other, the more often they communicate, the it is more at them than a common ground. And as all people different, interests at them too different. There is a conflict which permission is impossible if one of the parties does not want to make concessions. To resolve a conflict situation or to avoid it, both parties need to make concessions. The popular wisdom – who is smarter, that will concede – it does not do for educational process. If parents concede all the time and indulge the child, the whimsical unbalanced, unaccomodating little man with whom it will be difficult to communicate and for which it will be hard in life will grow up from him. It is necessary to explain to the child as soon as possible what is a compromise and to teach him to art to concede for resolution of conflict.
Why it is necessary to concede each other
It is necessary to have a talk with the child on the conflict. If the conflict took place, it is good to make it on a bright example or to pick up a suitable example from literature familiar to the child, from the movie or the animated movie. Subjects about which surely it is worth saying:
– what is the conflict (disagreement of the parties on any question); – as well as why it arises (both parties insist on the); – what feelings participants of the conflict (rage, offense, hostility) have; – what means to concede each other (to change the opinion, to soften requirements, to reduce expectations); – why it is necessary to concede each other (to resolve the conflict and to cease to experience negative emotions).
How to learn a compromise
Behavior option when participants of the conflict make concessions, the compromise is called. At achievement of a compromise it is important not only to reach the agreement by reciprocal concessions, but also to accurately observe the undertaken obligations. Failure to follow arrangements – a reason for the new conflicts. Therefore child it is necessary to accustom to be consecutive. Besides the trust which non-performance the obligation can be undermined easily is very important for achievement of a compromise. Also the child should explain that to learn to concede each other, it is easier to look for and reach compromise in disputable situations if to be able to operate the emotions. And, as any theoretical knowledge, the ability to make a compromise should be set practically. For example, to agree with the child that he will walk in the evenings, only if prepares all lessons in the afternoon. Or to compromise concerning watching TV (it can be looked in turn, in advance warning about favourite or important transfer).