For the first time that the child lies and uses cunning we face when the kid is two years old. To this age the child begins to understand that if to tell lies, then it is possible not to carry out that you want from it. And if the child broke a vase or still somehow was guilty, all fault can just be shifted to a cat.
Actually children's lie is formed in the child long before two years. It arises in infancy when the child cries just to see mom, but not because it needs something. And since the earliest years the kid receives the desirable, that is on its first shout mom comes and, trying to understand the crying reason, carries out enough time with the child. The rule "is fixed in the children's head used cunning – received".
The child grows and begins to arrange you hysterics in shop. Very clearly it shows that without this machine the life is not lovely to it any more. It too cunning of the little tyrant. He realizes that he quietly could do without toy, but for its receiving it is necessary to pretend to be before parents and to represent suffering.
What do we do when we catch the child on deception? We force to admit at all, thereby having humiliated the kid. Now he understands that it is necessary to lie more sophisticated next time. Unfortunately, at the moment nobody learned to disaccustom to a lie of neither adults, nor children. All of us lie, to a degree. Whether from mercenary motives, or from noble – all the same we tell a lie. To fight against a children's lie it is equivalent to fight against windmills. But also you should not leave a situation without your control.
Instead of catching the kid on each cunning, try to teach him to distinguish a "good" lie from "bad". The child has to understand a side of legal. One business – to keep back to parents the truth concerning what gift for March 8 children prepared for the mothers to make a surprise. And completely different is to hide the mother's Golden Ring and to pretend that you do not know where it.
It is necessary to understand that the first innocent and naive children's deception is not a reason for panic and resolute actions yet. At some people, on the contrary, it is considered to be that the children's lie is a sign of good imagination and the correct development of imagination in the child. Therefore the main thing to find golden mean and not to draw excessive attention to a problem and also not to miss an opportunity to influence the child at children's age.
Before beginning to criticize and bring up the child, once again think of the behavior in relation to it. One of common causes of a children's lie – a lack of attention from adults. The child wants to seem better, than he is, in hope it is simple to deserve your praise.