Seven years – an important stage in the child's life. The preschool childhood comes to an end, ahead – school, the new rights and duties, new friends and hobbies. Mom and dad still main people in his life, but their opinion gradually stops being for the child only true. Parents sometimes just do not notice it.
And whether it is necessary to force?
Long ago it is proved that power methods in pedagogics are inefficient even if it is not about physical punishments, and about psychological pressure. The younger preschool child still can reconcile to the fact that he is forced to make something against his will. Parents have enough forces to break its resistance. If it is the measure forced and it is applied seldom (for example, or quickly to remove only cases when the child needs to be treated for danger), nothing terrible happens. Constant pressure will lead to the fact that the charming kid will turn into the being broken by life, absolutely deprived of an initiative.
Also the opposite option is possible – the strong personality capable to resist in any life situations will be created, but parents will not play any role in her life. The seven-year-old child already quite will have forces to resist constant pressure from adults. Disobedience – one of forms of such resistance, the brightest and active.
How to avoid disobedience
The child resists when parents excessively sponsor him, do not allow to show independence. The senior preschool child already much can. Define a circle of its constant duties. Perhaps, it already goes to a circle, sports school or studio of esthetic education. Your task is to provide it conditions for classes and in time to send to lessons and trainings. He has to be responsible for house tasks already. It is necessary to control, of course, but do it imperceptibly.
Except educational, the child has to have also household chores. To clean a cage with a canary, to water flowers, to vacuum a carpet in the room, to put in order the bed at the dacha – the list is not full. The child has to feel that he already big that he can do the affairs important for others. Can happen that the senior preschool child will forget to make something. It is necessary not to force him, and to remind that others suffered from its inaction: the canary can die, flowers will wither, and on a carpet it will be better not to go barefoot.
The child has a mood too
Almost each person has minutes when his fingers are all thumbs. Such minutes happen also at children. It is important to parents to understand it. Perhaps, the child quarreled with the best friend or the teacher, maybe, lost a favourite toy or the best book of a sgryzl a dog. Its troubles can seem you trifles, but for the preschool child or the younger school student the similar disorders are very serious. Talk about it, sympathize, advise how to behave, your opinion is for the present very important for it.
You learn to agree
In families where between adults and children trusting relationship was established, the problems with obedience usually do not happen. Just does not come to the child to mind that it is possible to make something in defiance as all issues with him are discussed as equals, reckon with his opinion, parents ask it council. It is important to observe arrangements and to keep promises. The seven-year-old child perfectly remembers also what was promised by him, and what was promised it. Having deceived in the expectations, he ceases to perceive the words of the adult and does everything in defiance.