Children are always happiness, and the task of parents is to make happy the child even if the parent only one – mom. And at the same time to be able to derive pleasure from the role even if there is no reliable male shoulder nearby.
It is required to you
- - forces
- - patience
- - it is a lot of love
Instruction
1. If you decided to become a mom, then it has to be only your decision. Perhaps, parents and the senior relatives will begin to dissuade you – it is normal, for them the status of single mother habitually is associated with "shame", in them old stereotypes are still strong. Your age-mates – friends and acquaintances – can tell about difficulties which expect you. That, all including at happy married couples have difficulties. Listen to yourself, and solve, your desire to present life to the kid is how big.
2. Estimate the forces, both moral, and material. Whether you are ready to care for the kid, without complaining about destiny that you have nobody to divide your cares? Whether you will be able to provide yourself and the child? Whether there are people capable and ready to help you? Of course, it is good when there is reliable material "base" for the birth and education of the kid, but the great number of the women who fell into a similar state started almost from scratch and not just survived, and managed to make happy the life and the child.
3. "Release" the person who could not or did not want to become a dad for yours the baby. Everything already happened, and constant charges in its address will not be able to change a situation. And here the negative which you saved up in relation to this person is quite capable to pour out on the child over time. Subconsciously the woman can begin to accuse him of sins of the biological father, to transfer to it the offenses and sorrows. Try to avoid it! Let the man who acted this way with you go on life the road – you do not have to him business any more, focus on other most important person in your life – the child.
4. Kind of you tried to create all conditions for your kid, remember that the family consisting only of mom and the child is after all family incomplete, and for normal formation of the personality the child needs presence of a significant adult male. Perhaps, your own father or the brother, the good friend or (why and is not present will become such man?) new beloved. It is not obligatory that this man constantly was near the child, but their communication has to be rather regular, and the relations – confidential and close. Then at the kid it will be formed the correct ideas of men's type of behavior in society. Remember that it is important both for boys, and for girls.
5. Despite all the love, do not do the child by the center of the existence though temptation to act this way it will be rather big. Do not forget about yourself: communicate, develop, you raise professionally and spiritually. The child, maturing, will appreciate and respect much more mother who managed to remain the interesting, versatile and strong personality, than the "nurse" who offered for the sake of him all.