Each mother, carrying the child under heart, represents what it will be when is born: beautiful, clever, kind. But already after a while after the birth of the kid it turns out that over the second and third point it is necessary to work.
Do not bring up the child, all the same he will resemble you. Bring up yourself
The personal example has to be a basis in education of the child. Children always in everything copy behavior of parents therefore you have to be very accurate in the words and acts.
Care with toys and pets has to be the first lesson of kindness and mercy. If you see that the soft toy fell, surely at once lift it and regret. Suggest the kid to regret it also. Do not throw, you do not think, do not push a toy in the overflowed container at the child. If the toy has to be hidden nevertheless, tell on behalf of the toy that she very much wants to get into this container and to sleep off. Always you remember that the child animates all toys, and them abuse is inadmissible.
Never abuse and do not offend pets at the child even if they were guilty. Accept the help of the child in care for pets, you teach care, do not allow to hurt animals even if it seems to you amusing or the animal suffers. Talk to children on behalf of an animal, it will help children to understand better motives of their behavior and to learn them to empathize. Same concerns also insects. Passing by the track laid by ants carefully cross it, having paid to it the attention of the child. Even if you need to kill a mosquito or a spider, try to do it not at the child. You remember very wise words of Brad Millar: "You teach the child not to come on caterpillars. For the child it is important as well as for a caterpillar".
Help others
It will be very useful to go to the child with you to nursing home or orphanage with the help. Requirement at people for these institutions not so much in material benefits, how many in real-life communication so such visits will be mutually useful and not burdensome even for the modest family budget. Even if you are not sure that you will be able to get access to these institutions, you always have an opportunity together with the child to pack his toys, things and books for the help to children from poor children. It is not difficult to find them: address for council in the nearest church or on a city forum. Explain to your child that things are necessary to children who have nothing, it is possible even parents.
Read fairy tales
Very important instrument of education are fairy tales. Carefully select fairy tales in which heroes show kindness and mercy. When reading fairy tales in which the hero shows lines which you would not want to see at the child, comment that the hero of the fairy tale was mistaken. Not the smaller value has also the choice of the animated films which are not bearing negative behavior models, and giving to your children lessons of kindness and compassion. It is for this purpose much more convenient to limit access for the child to television channels, having provided to his attention own selection from animated films. Get acquainted with an education technique personal fairy tales. Its essence consists in the composition and reading of tales of the child in which he shows lines necessary to you, getting out of the situations in which experiences difficulties in life. A lot of useful information on this subject can be gathered in works of the outstanding teacher of the present Shalva Amonashvili.