What is it – positive thinking in education of children? How to realize it in practice? Figuratively speaking determination of positive thinking following: "Do not say about what you do not want, and about what you want".
For example, you came to bookstore behind the new book by the favourite writer. It is unlikely you will begin to list to the seller of the title of all books which are not necessary to you, or to touch all similar books on racks. Most likely, you will call (or you will find on the shelf) that book which is necessary to you.
So why we, formulating (or trying to formulate) any purpose in life, in 90% of cases build it by the principle "what I do not want". Instead of "I want to be slender and beautiful" we speak "I do not want to be fat". And that the worst – we inspire this most negative behavior model in the children as attitude.
Imagine: you decided to hold a serious conversation about meaning of life with the child (or as option – about the serious relation to life). Most likely, it will be a monologue, it seems "My dear child! For all the life I did a heap of mistakes, was engaged in what I categorically wanted it. And vice versa – was not engaged in the fact that wanted most of all. I do not want that you repeated my mistakes therefore believe my bitter experience and remember: never do... (the list on hundred pages is farther), do not deal with it people... (one more list), do not communicate with... (list of specific individuals), and hundreds more of similar "not". And in the rest of the time what he hears from you most often? That's right: "do not touch", "do not climb", "do not go", "do not play about"... Be not surprised then if 90 your % do not become for your child a guide to action: forbidden fruit is the sweetest... And vice versa – all yours with inhuman efforts the drummed 10% "it is necessary!" will turn out what will never be made.
And not because your child does everything of harm to you to spite. Simply, paradoxically, but, trying to save the child from mistakes, you program him on the return result. Such is property of our mentality, (and especially mentalities of the child) that when to us something is forbidden, often we absolutely instinctively want this ban to break. Thus your child just reflex rejects a particle "not", and as a result all his attention is concentrated on what you so persistently forbade it. Even it is difficult to adult "not to think of a white monkey" - especially in case the picture with this monkey looms at it before eyes on hundred times in the course of the day. So, you ask – at all not to forbid? Why to forbid, of course. Can happen so that his life can depend on its ability to implicitly execute your ban. But the spirit for positive result, but not the way "escape" from inevitable mistakes and failures has to be the main vital motivation of the child. Education brings benefit only when knowledge acquisition or the most necessary skills in life is experienced and based on positive emotions, and is ready for obtaining positive result. And the best method of training of the child is a game. Suggest your child to play the new, fascinating game "I Want that..." and teach to turn the most courageous dream into great reality.