To help or not to adult children - parents have to solve. Not always the matured children need material support as some marry successfully (marry), but not all. Before understanding what is not enough for your child, it is necessary to make the simple analysis of a life situation, and already then to solve whether your help will be not superfluous.
Instruction
1. Many young people who matured and given birth to children cannot cope with new duties. You can help to sit with the child, to expiate and even to put to bed. But do everything unostentatiously and if you are not asked to help, then at all do not climb to young people better. There are cases when parents help from good intentions, but children perceive everything in bayonets. But not everything act this way, many children, having started a family, want parents to come more often.
2. When the child decides to get second higher education, but cannot because of cares of the kid, undertake these duties. It is not enough to give birth to children, it is necessary not only to grow up them, but also to promote their career development. It is very heavy to begin everything from scratch, and with someone's help everything is much easier. Many people became famous only thanks to the help of relatives and dear people.
3. If you notice that the young family has not enough money, then before think, than to give them. When there is nothing to eat, there is not enough certain sum to repay the loan or to repay a debt, of course, it is worth helping. In other situations it is better not to give an easy time as can soon begin to ask from you on credit constantly. And not always the initiator is your child, more often their soulmates begin to do it.
4. All people need the different help, everything depends on a specific situation. Some children dream of the apartment or expensive car, but if you cannot help to get to them it, then you do not blame yourself. Financial side is not always important, children need to be encouraged. When to the child it is bad, it is necessary to calm him, but not to give manual even if it stumbled in life.
5. If you consider that children have to try to obtain everything, then just watch the events from outside. But when you see that you can help with something, make it. It is possible that the little push will help to achieve the desirable. Be attentive to the children even if they grew up for a long time.