To understand why the child has bad relations with schoolmates, it is necessary to discuss with him this situation and to try to help him. It is necessary to understand – why as well as from where there was such situation?
Characteristics of kids victims
Inadequate behavior and emotions. Usually the kid derelict the long time is suffered by mockeries even then when it would be possible to hit back. But, when "the bowl is overflowed", they can arrange the real slaughter because of a trifle.
The overestimated sensitivity. Than the kid derelict was engaged, for him not the result, but reaction of people around will be the main task. Such child can leave section or a circle only because made him a remark.
Physical defects. The kids having birthmarks or scars on a face, stradayushche squint and violations of the musculoskeletal device are rejected.
Slovenliness and untidiness. A smell of stale linen, baggy, not by the size, clothes, a smorkaniye during a lesson. All this and many other things are noticed by other kids and can become the powerful reason of stickings and offenses.
Time to discuss came
If you do not know the reasons of a problem of the child, it is worth talking personally to him about it, it is necessary "to disentangle" consequences and to take necessary measures to him. The task of parents is to analyze a situation and to offer the correct option of behavior.
If the child is ready to accept your help, consider the situations happening to him. Ask him: Do tell? How do you behave? What do you feel? The essence of questions and answers in informing the kid – his behavior can provoke schoolmates to bad acts.
Survival
After clarification of the reasons and a talk it is necessary to help the child to find new types of response to a bad situation. Think together, events kind of developed if another, well adapted child got into such situation. What would he make and told? Whether your kid can behave also?
Sometimes roughness and violence can be the only exit from the difficult situations demanding self-defense.
Mistakes
The incorrect behavior of parents can also become the reason of persecution of the child. Usually mistakes at parents the following:
Parents think that their child is always right. Make an experiment: write down several complaints of the child to schoolmates and the replies to these complaints. If in most cases you acquit the child, so you unconsciously create to him problems.
Parental intervention. Parents think that they have to watch constantly the child and always interfere with his problems. Actually intervention of parents says to schoolmates that the child is weak, defective and helpless without "mummy". As a result at such child the status and respect in a circle of peers goes down.
Own experience. Usually councils of parents are based on their own experience. The child having the character and a mental warehouse loses flexibility of behavior, the acts incompatible with its character, to it are unnatural.
Long offense. If the child comes to parents and says to them that he was offended by Petya, parents tell something it seems: "This Petya you does not give to pass several years. You remember how it then …". Such rancor of adults does not allow the child to forget the bad incidents which happened to him.