Psychologists call fears at children an everyday occurrence as the knack helps to be afraid to the person to survive. However in due time not detected and started phobias can become pathological and pursue your child all life. If the kid is tormented by persuasive nightmares, it is very important to help the child to overcome fear.
Children's fears and age
- In 2-3 years the kid connects sharp sounds with danger, this reason of fear is extremely widespread among small children.
- Not all parents up to the end understand, the everlasting fear of darkness is how painful sometimes for the baby.
- Many children instinctively are afraid of the pets, especially unfamiliar, will not get used to them yet.
- The fear reasons at children from 4 years are often connected with the developing imagination. Heroes of computer games and movies, shadows, dreams, own incarnate imaginations can frighten the child.
- Fears mature together with children, especially quickly if kids face a grief in family. From 5 years the little person can incurably be afraid to ache, lose close, to die.
5 ways to help the child to overcome fear
- You should not claim that are afraid there is nothing. Fear – the phenomenon natural. However the child has to know that the adult is near, he surely will get up on his protection if it is required.
- Surely tell the son (daughter) that you understand what he (she) is afraid of. The story about similar, but successfully endured by you, fear in the childhood will be appropriate. Dialogue is necessary!
- Lack of sneers. Never laugh at fears of the child – children will hide problems because of sense of shame that threatens with development of a phobia. You risk loss of trust of the child to adults.
- It is proved that best of all the scared child calms a deep voice of the man – fathers, uncles, the elder brother. Quietly and surely promise the kid: everything obligatory will be good.
- Remind children of the victories gained by them over fears more often, but not in which case - not of failures.
Correction of fears at children
Effective techniques of overcoming fear which children's psychologists successfully use are connected with impact on emotions of kids to a large extent, but not on their mind. For example, if your child is afraid of the dark, hardly it will be helped by logical beliefs that at the turned-off light in the room nothing will change. Experts advise to accustom the kid to darkness.
In the "terrible" room the light needs to be turned off, – to include in others. It is originally recommended, having taken the child by hand, to enter together the dark room and to leave if it begins to be afraid. Gradually increase time of such campaigns, be patient, and the child will begin to make them independently and will get used is in the room explored by it.
To help the child to overcome fear outgaming of a problem situation well helps, having got to which, the hero comes out the winner. The skazkoterapiya - treatment by fairy tales in which the good always overcomes the evil comes to the rescue. Select suitable stories, think out the, for example, about a teddy bear who was afraid of the dark, but friendship with a little and brave glowworm helped it to overcome fear.
Let children will become actors, darlings a toy use and lose various situations. Without suspecting that, kids can tell in the course of fantastic improvisation a lot of things about the reasons of bad dreams and the arising phobias.
As it is possible to construct a fantastic training
1. Represent in persons or by means of dolls fantastic history that it caused an emotional response from the child.
2. Fix the gained experience. So, you can present to the child a small lamp with which it will get into "den" from chairs and blankets. In the children's room hang up a night lamp.
3. In common draw conclusions. The played history surely has to be connected with a specific problem (for example, fear to come into the dark room).
If you try to help the child to overcome fear, but it is not possible to solve a problem independently, do not assume at all that the son or the daughter got for the rest of life not palatable phobia. Address the experienced children's psychologist, and together you will surely cope with a problem.