With such situation when the child grows at absolutely indecisive, many parents face. And it is clear that in a garden and furthermore at school, it is necessary to such child very hardly, not to mention adulthood. But nevertheless parents can help the child to win against indecision.
Do not call the child
Never you say to the child that he is a coward, even in a playful form. Otherwise it can be fixed and undermine self-confidence.
Help your child to become more courageous better, having encouraged, for example, the fact that next time at it surely everything will turn out.
If you after all want to place emphasis that the child was frightened, speak not about it, and about his behavior.
Remind of progress
When your child once again doubts itself, just remind him a situation where it could overcome itself(himself) and to be a good fellow.
Examples for imitation
Look for examples for imitation everywhere where it is only possible: on TV screens, in books, among acquaintances. Children very much love a story about other children.
It is important to child to know that someone was not really courageous as he, and could change. And, of course, the main example for the child are you.
Down with the overestimated expectations
If for parents the main words in education are "it has to", then it is about the overestimated requirements to the child.
Be more realistic in the expectations and desires. Understanding that it does not correspond to your ideals, the child can finally lose self-confidence.
The love is not measured
The indecision goes hand in hand with feeling of insignificance for parents. Doubts arise when dad and mom love for something. For example, for good marks.
It is impossible to say to the child at all that you will not love him if he behaves badly. Nothing is more terrible than these words for the child is not present.
The son or the daughter have to feel that they have the right for a mistake and for own opinion, without being afraid to lose your love.
Discuss opportunities
Do not abuse at all and you do not reproach the kid with indecision. Sense of guilt not the assistant in this situation. In a quiet situation discuss options as it was possible to arrive.
Let the child at first will express the opinion, and then you will help it. During the conversation choose the best options. And then next time the child will arrive in a different way.