The beginning of academic year is a huge stress for the first grader. Not only that loadings increased and there were new requirements to discipline, so also absolutely new collective into which it is necessary to fit somehow. How the child will have relations with schoolmates, his desire to study further will depend.
How to understand that the child has problems in communication
The isolation or hostility can become the first reaction when getting into unfamiliar collective. It is necessary to watch closely mood of the first grader coming from school to ask with whom he managed to make friends as schoolmates treat it.
At the beginning new school students seek to be on friendly terms with the one who met approval of the teacher, then this trend passes and groups on interests are formed. And if your child did not get into one of such groups and did not make friends with anybody of schoolmates, he will feel very uncomfortably and either will even more become reserved, or will show hostility to schoolmates. If in 1-2 months after the beginning of academic year the child with anybody did not make friends, parents have to be disturbed.
Ways of the decision
If the child says that nobody wants to be on friendly terms with him, for a start softly find out from what he drew such conclusions. Perhaps, there was a conflict with schoolmates or it was not invited in the general game. Depending on the received answers it is already possible to undertake something. If the quarrel was not, and he just in vain waited for the invitation in a game, try to tell the child as it is possible to begin a conversation how to join in communication. If there was a conflict, find together with the child ways of an exit from it. Do not try to solve the conflict directly, for your child it is important to be able most to settle quarrels. If the relations nevertheless do not develop, it is necessary to look for other options. Talk to the teacher and parents – quite perhaps not only you faced this problem. Try to organize a celebration for all class, someone's birthday or the beginning of academic year can be the cause. It is possible to try to make friends children, having put them for one school desk, to give a joint task. Very well rally collective team games, trips to the nature and excursions. The small help, for example, if the neighbor in a school desk forgot the handle or a pencil can become a reason for acquaintance. Try not to lose contact with your child in the circumstances. Do not assume that he began something to hide from you, thinking that you do not wish or are not capable to help him. Enjoy together with the child to each good point in communication with schoolmates. The child has to acquire a simple thing – who wants to be on friendly terms, itself has to be friendly. Show to children it on own example. Explain that the friend not only has to fill the needs for communication, but also itself wants to receive necessary for it. The school friendship put in the childhood happens the strongest in life.