For the author of this article to live in harmony with the kid – very important task. Looking at many conflicts of mothers with the children at playgrounds, I understand that it is really necessary.
The harmony is a coordination, coherence of conflict elements. Very useful things in any relationship, including with the child. In what violations of harmony in the relations of mother and child and how they can be overcome?
Often at the playground the phrase is heard: "What you sit, go though look/resemble!" That is mom who tells phrases such does not appreciate the interest of the child at present, considers it less important, than something else. And at this time the child is busy with something, he gets experience of interaction with the world. Try to trace why you want to switch the child. One business if it is the conflict, and it is necessary to resolve it, distracting the kid. And completely different when he is busy, but the business. Ask yourself a question: whether really your idea / business is more important for it right now?
Other moment in which often there is no harmony between mom and the child is a biorhythm. Each person has the biorhythm when he wants to eat, sleep, wake up. To cardinally break a biorhythm very hard and not palatably, especially for the child. Try to follow the rule of "golden mean": you adapt to the child and arrange him under yourself. Listen to the organism and be sensitive to the kid. Listen to feeling, than "the correct recommendations" more. It is considered correct to nurse a lyalka each three hours. But someone's child eats time at two o'clock, and someone's and 4 sleeps tight.
I will give a personal example. Some time ago the son began to fall asleep badly. Before at 21:30 he already slept. And here we were at war with him and kept within more than an hour. It became gradually clear that the reason not that he badly falls asleep, and that its mode for some reason with approach of summer was displaced later. We became prepares for sleeping later and at 22:30 the child slept without any war and hysterics. Now I understand that if I want to stack him earlier, then it is necessary to displace gradually the mode, since the morning. And as in the morning I like to have a sleep, we with it left everything as it is.
It is not necessary "to break" the child or itself once again, listen to his organism and find "golden mean" for your relations. The harmony will help you to live in education of the child with it in peace, quietly showing the love. Get the joy of motherhood instead of being the angered Fury which constantly is at war with the child.