Rare mother does not dream of that her child was not happy – but sometimes is so that parents not absolutely understand what happiness of their child consists in, and make incorrect decisions because of which the child lacks love and care, and his true requirements remain unrealized.
Instruction
1. Very often parents confuse with original happiness of the child his social success and the place in society and also aspire to that the child became the embodiment of their unrealized desires.
2. Perceive the child not as continuation of own life and as the certain unique personality who has an identity and who has the destiny and the way to lives. The child will not be happy, going on your way – give it the chance to choose interests and hobbies independently.
3. Help the child to develop, but do not change its orientation. Your education has to become first of all support – the child always has to feel safety and know that you approve any his undertakings and will help in case of need.
4. Realize needs of the kid for knowledge – if he asks, always answer and also do not separate the child from the natural environment. Allow it to take hands flowers and stones, to run barefoot on the ground, to lap in pools – thus, the child develops the world around himself.
5. Teach the kid to communicate with surrounding people – both with adults, and with peers and also teach the child to the fact that your love and respect – constant unit, and it does not need to be earned. In the same way the child should not "sell" you the love for the next bought toy.
6. You watch the way of life, behavior, and after the habits – the child unconsciously repeats behavior model of the parents and if it is incorrect, the child will grow up, having created the wrong style of behavior. Improper feeding can become one of such habits – accustom the child since childhood on own example to eat healthy food and also try to observe a day regimen. If the child in the childhood is accustomed to go to bed and get up at the same time, in the future he will be able easily to adapt to the educational and working schedule.
7. Remember that the child will be happy only when you are happy. Children well transfer to themselves feelings of the parents and if you constantly have a stress and discontent, the child will not be able to be happy. Only the atmosphere of joy and love in family will be able to give him this feeling.
8. Constantly give to the child the chance to feel your love, sometimes do him the pleasant surprises developing it creative and mental abilities – for example, you give to the child the unusual and useful toys and books corresponding to age of the kid. Giving to the child a toy, be engaged with him together in its development – a game together with parents will give to the child a lot of joy and pleasures.