Many parents mistakenly believe that if to buy to the kid a set of the developing toys, he will learn everything. But the independence should teach him to you. It is better to begin it to do in 2-3 years. At this age the child more often says a phrase "I", and it is excellent. In the absence of desire it is difficult to teach something. You seize this moment because at more advanced age the child, on the contrary, is lazy something to do itself and most often insists that instead of it it was made by parents.
Why children do not like to put on
Children, as a rule, do not want to put on independently. The main reason – are not able. Well it is inconvenient to pull tights which do not want to stretch, to put on trousers moreover and it is correct, and about fastening of clothes and it is not necessary to speak. These "wrong" socks which are put on on the contrary all the time these unclear sleeves to which hands for some reason do not get. Eventually the kid begins to be nervous, cry and with a hysterics gives up this business.
How to teach the kid to put on
It is possible to teach the child to put on independently. It is not difficult at all. It is enough to show several times to it as it is correct to do it. It is just necessary to do it at slow speed, fixing each stage: survey of clothes, its smoothing, it is necessary to show what party in the face of the child there have to be clothes as a result is correct to put on it. You remember: the main thing - slowly. And it will already be a big step to that next time the child did it. Allow the kid to put on clothes the second or third attempt most. Let in one day it will be, for example, a skirt or a dress, trousers or tights.
In other day something else from clothes. Look what it does not so. Repeat this stage once again in the slowed-down mode. Repeated? And now let the kid will try again. If all the same it did not turn out, put on him this element of clothes, and next time repeat process, at first again, recorded, and then the child puts on clothes again.
Three interesting ways
You can use the next two ways to make process of training in clothing cheerful and interesting.
The first way: take some element of clothes. Present that you put it on the child. You correctly understood, present mentally. It will turn out at you quickly. And now make as presented, only in the slowed-down mode, slowly. Your kid has to manage to remember all details of process.
In what essence of this method. Adult many things do automatically, irresponsibly. Because they are able to do it, do quickly, this a thing, habitual for them. The child cannot understand how it at you turns out, and at him is not present. And, slowing down become automatic for you process, you fix at the kid in the head practically each movement. As a result he begins to understand what specifically you do. All this is postponed at him in the head somewhere at the subconscious level. And at the beginning he just tries to put on itself, at the same time some things at it turn out, some are not present, but over time all these actions in the same way at it will turn out in the automatic mode. A little time and your patience is just necessary.
Remember when you watch focuses. You see how objects disappear and appear, are surprised how so it turned out. But if to see the same stage in the slowed-down mode, you begin to see that the conjurer hid something, pulled out something. It becomes clear to you how focus turned out. The same is also with the child.
The second way: show to the child a difference between the correct and wrong clothing of clothes. Put on tights on the contrary and pull them not up to the end. Let the kid resemble in them. The truth it is inconvenient? And now take off tights and put on them correctly. And now it is convenient? Yes, it is convenient now. Try to make so with several types of clothes: trousers, jacket, dress, jacket.
And then, if the child independently puts on some thing incorrectly, he will not think that to it it is uncomfortable because at all so, now he will know that if something is inconvenient, so not so.
The third way suits fathers more if you have a son and to mothers if you have a daughter. Prepare clothes for yourself and the child. Put equally. And now together at the same time begin to put on. Dad puts on trousers and the son. Everything has to occur at the same time. Mom puts on tights and the daughter. Then dress. Then shoes. If during training process the child puts on clothes incorrectly, without being in time for the parent, start anew.
Try. These are interesting options of training of your kid. Interesting to both parents.
Not everything that is natural to you, is natural also to the child. It is not necessary to hope that the child will learn everything. Of course, there are no such people who are not able to put on, for example. All are able. Learned sooner or later. Just think on those that your child in a garden or at school will not be able to do what other children are able to do. And it will be the very first reason for sneers from people around. And here to you the first complex from the childhood. Let him at least be able to do what the child at his age has to be able to do. Then he will be self-assured and other things will turn out at him quickly. Do not miss this very first time for independence. It is a basis. And further just maintain the available skills and train in new.