Still before the child is born, many parents dream about his future: what will be character of their kid, what objects to it will be pleasant at school what circles he will begin to visit and what profession will choose. And many grown-up children want to meet parental expectations.
The aspiration to meet parental expectations has also a reverse side: you can, without noticing that, to live life not. To receive unnecessary specialty, to work at unloved work, to enter the relations not with that person. Perhaps, mom will be happy, but whether she will arrange it you? Trying to please parents, try not to do much harm to yourself.
Dreams of unrealizable
Some parental expectations are not fated to come true, and it is normal. Mom dreamed that its daughter will be an artistic girl, will learn to sing and dance perfectly, and the child was absolutely deprived of hearing. The father represented how will train the son to plane on a tree, but the child is not capable of similar work at all and over and over again strives to cut off to itself a finger. Children grow up thinner and less strong, than their parents represented, instead of angelic blond curls they have hard dark hair and, unlike the grandfather professor, they sometimes understand nothing trigonometry. If you are physically not capable to execute something what your parents dream of, the best decision it will be simple to forget about it and not to suffer sense of guilt, time to change a situation not in your forces.
We analyze inquiries
Often parents mentally paint all further life of the child. He by all means has to study at school on some five, and then arrive on the lawyer. To pass a training in Germany. To marry the worthy and wealthy person, and to manage to make it to certain age. In case of disobedience some fathers and mothers as a result reconcile to the choice of the child, others at each opportunity remind him that it does everything not so, thereby upsetting them. Distract from parental installations and think that is wanted personally by you. Whether you will be really happy, working as the lawyer, or you went to this specialty because mom so told you? Whether you wish early marriage or you prepare for a wedding only because so it is necessary, and it is necessary not to you? Possibly, derogation from the drawn-up plan will upset your parents, but you can try to reach compromise. For example, you go to that UNIVERSITY which you want, but at the same time go on English courses, your dad dreamed of that his daughter in perfection knew a foreign language.
We wish good luck to you
To most of parents nevertheless not essentially, than their child is engaged. They want him to be healthy and happy, and seek to result him in such result. Here only they can understand happiness in own way. For them it can consist in work of the banker, in the wealthy husband, in the apartment in the downtown. Convince mother and the father that, going on the way, you are happy, are not under strained circumstances and you do not forget to eat vegetables, and they for certain will be satisfied.