Any parent knows that with teenagers it is very difficult to improve the relations. In them hormones which cause sharp changes of mood storm, as a result teenagers constantly are in a nervous state. Many questions torment parents of children who are in awkward age, it is very important to find answers to these questions competently to behave in any given situation.
Instruction
1. Often children become reserved and boycott parents, naturally, mom and dad begin to worry and do not understand how it is correct to behave at this moment, try to bring the child to a conversation, and it only provokes the conflicts.
2. The fact is that children behave so because they want to seem both surrounding, and to themselves independent and independent of anybody. The child during this period very much needs parents, but does not know how to ask them council, to ask supports, he is afraid to meet misunderstanding therefore he just ceases to communicate with mom and dad. It is necessary to show attention to the child, but it should not be persuasive, just it is worth explaining to the child that he will be able always to ask for the help parents, you should not hesitate of it.
3. At teenage age at children the progress at school, naturally, often decreases parents begin to panic, be angry, abuse the child. For a start it is necessary to understand the reasons for which it occurred. Most often decrease in progress is connected with different existence of problems including problems with peers and in private life. It is not necessary to make scandals, just it is necessary to look narrowly at the child and to try to help him, but to put not violently for lessons.
4. When the child contacts the bad company, naturally, parents ask a question: why it occurred that promoted such succession of events. Not always the reason is that the child is, so to speak, bad. Sometimes in such company it is easier for children to hide from personal problems, family scrapes, misunderstanding. Such companies of children do not teach some good sense, total freedom works there, and it is very attractive to the child.
5. During this period it is important to take the correct position. If constantly to say to the child that his circle of contacts is bad and to forbid it with such people to communicate, it will do all on the contrary. It is necessary just to lead direct talks with the child, but at the same time it is bad not to speak of his friends, and it is possible even to try to find in them something good.
6. The complexes connected with appearance also most often are shown at teenage age, and parents often do not understand what does not suit the child in his appearance, it is almost ideal. It is a usual stage of growing at which parents have to give the child compliments more often and note his advantages that at the teenager the self-assessment did not decrease.