How to praise the child, without making mistakes

How to praise the child, without making mistakes

Children surely need a praise. Approval of parents provides not only psychological comfort of the child, but also his good behavior. Praise the child differently, but many parents often make mistakes which need to learn to be avoided.

Often from parents it is possible to hear only "clear head" or "good fellow", of course, it pleasantly, but the specifics are important for the correct development of the child therefore the praise has to be developed. If the child cleaned up ware after a meal or tidied up in the room, he needs to be praised for it that not only to increase mood and a self-assessment, but also to let know that parents wait for such actions from the child and in the future.

One more widespread mistake – a praise reproachfully. If the child made something very well, is inappropriate to praise him as follows: "You coped perfectly today, can when you want not that last time". Such compliment both lifts a self-assessment, and offends at the same time. It is necessary to praise so that there was only a positive feeling, but not a hint that last time everything was made very badly.

It is impossible to belittle at a praise the dignity of other person at all: "Your drawing is much better, than at your schoolmate (the friend, the sister, the brother)". If the child also competes, he has to do it only with himself, every time improving results. In this case there will be no belittling of other child which can lead to the wrong creation of the relations of your child with age-mates. It is necessary to praise so that the child understood that his today's achievement is one step away ahead of what he managed to achieve yesterday.

One more wrong tactics – unwillingness to praise the child, explaining it with the fact that he will put on airs and will begin to carry out the duties badly. The correct approval always stimulates, and its absence not only reduces a self-assessment, but also something fights off the child desire to do. The lack of a praise depreciates all positive actions of the child, and it leads to the fact that he ceases to make them. In this case it is possible to achieve that there will be a bad behavior by which the child will try to compensate a lack of attention from parents.

Author: «MirrorInfo» Dream Team