During the divorce of parents the child endures the difficult psychological drama. But the correct behavior of mom and dad, reliable information and confidence in tomorrow will allow to endure this moment less painfully. The correct behavior of people around at this moment plays the maximum value.
Instruction
1. divorceto the childIt is necessary to speak about when you are already sure of this decision. Consider everything, properly. The situation of uncertainty can strongly frighten, cause a stress. If you are sure of the decision, report this news together. It has to be family discussion.
2. Speaking about similar circumstances, tell how there will be further life. For the kid everything has to be extremely simply — with whom he will live as he will communicate with the second parent. The conversation has to be quiet and slow not to frighten and to cause aggression.
3. Do not use at the child of a phrase "we were thrown" or "you were thrown". If someone left one, then also the others can leave. The child can have a fear that shortly it will remain one that it is left his all relatives and darlings.
4. You do not ask to get up on somebody's part. To make a choice happens not simply. This chance can be given after 15-16 years. To this age try that the little person did not hear condemnations towards the spouse(s) or relatives. To understand who is right and who is not, is not able even the adult. Similar dilemmas can become the cause of a psychological trauma.
5. Do not sort out the relations in the presence of the child, do not swear, do not raise the voice. Such behavior causes sense of guilt. Really you want until the end of life your child to think that you divorced because of it? A divorce - business of two people, it is not necessary to devote in it all family members.
6. You say to your son or the daughter that you love it, despite everything. Inspire that you will never leave him / her. You spend together time, play, do homework. Let the divorce will not be an occasion to reduce the number of communication, during this period it is very necessary for the child.