The birth of the second child will bring unconditional joy only to parents. And here new tenor of life and its role can absolutely disappoint the senior child in it. Therefore it is so important to prepare the senior child for the birth younger in advance.
Moral training of the senior child for emergence of younger depends on its age. The child is younger, the less it is necessary to place emphasis that he will become the elder brother or the sister soon. The child has no sense of time so far, and it is not necessary to inform him of addition in family too early. Otherwise every day you will be pursued by the question "And when?". Better to say that in family there will be a kid, already on the eve of the joyful event soon. And on a question why at mom such pot-belly it is fair to answer that there lives a kid. Usually later couples of leading questions the child will calm down.
With children is more senior (of 7 years) it is not necessary to do secrets, and to accurately tell that the little man will appear soon (it is better to specify specifically, when). At the same time it is not necessary to focus attention that the child will become the senior and the adult at once. It will not really happen. You do not divide children into younger and senior.
If there is an opportunity, take the child on a meeting of the kid from maternity hospital. He for certain will want to take part in festive preparation for this event. To hang out balls on the house, to draw a greeting card. Some parents give to the senior children a gift on behalf of younger. But the love should not is shown in a material equivalent. It is not necessary to impart spirit of rivalry between children the first minutes.
Some parents make a mistake, keeping out the child of the newborn. Allow to observe and play with the kid, it is natural under your control. So attachments will begin to be put, and the more you will drive away the senior from the kid, the offenses will appear more.
Whether the senior child has to help you with younger? Only at will. It is not necessary to do of it the nurse. And, of course, consider age of the child. 13-15 summer can quite play with the kid while you make a dinner. In 10 years it is possible to ask to gather waters in a bath and to take temperature. But about what it is possible to ask a 5-letka?
In the first days of the house pay more attention to the senior child. He needs to feel stability now that for mom and dad it still very best and to it it is not necessary to divide love and attention. Even if right now you cannot pay to the senior attention because you feed the kid, be covered with a diaper, talk to the child, play, sit in an embrace.