The divorce of parents is a tragedy not only for them. In most cases all relatives suffer from it: parents of the leaving couple, relatives. And the main thing - children very sharply suffer. Irrespective of, disagreements of parents before a gap were how deep, it is necessary to use reasonable efforts to save nervous system of the child and to help it to endure a divorce.
Instruction
1. It was not kind of heavy at you at heart, pay more attention to the child. During the divorce he very much needs attention and love of both parents.
2. Be honest with the child. Concealing and reserve do not promote overcoming psychological difficulties after the divorce. But never arrange loud showdowns at the child.
3. Do not break the bad mood on the child. Do not recoup on the little man for offenses which were caused to you by the spouse.
4. Explain to the child that he is not guilty of your parting that your relationship will not be reflected in the attitude towards him in any way that dad and mom love and will love it still.
5. Do not accuse of all troubles of the spouse. When you explain to the child of the reason of parting, you do not blame the former half. When the kid grows up, he will understand everything.
6. Do not involve the child in a solution to the conflict between parents, forcing the kid to side with one of you. Similar manipulations badly affect its mentality and will surely return to you a boomerang.
7. Try to make everything to keep the human relations with the former spouse. Encourage his communication with the child. The child has to have an opportunity to ask for the help any of parents even if someone from them lives separately.
8. If you start a new family, do not demand from the child to love the stepmother or the stepfather. Let the new spouse will better try to become the good friend for your son or the daughter.
9. If you cannot cope with psychological problems of the child after the divorce, ask for the help experts. If the kid does not tell you about the experiences, then it does not mean at all that they are absent. The psychologist will help the child to express, tell about the problems disturbing him will not allow to become reserved.
10. Do not go into extremes, crippling themselves, once beloved spouse, and, above all, the little, innocent person. Children should not pay for mistakes of the parents.