To raise children without shouts, abuse, threats is what each mother wishes to learn, perhaps. When forming the identity of the child from parents the attention and application of certain methods is required.
Parents who chose a way of punishment meet a large amount of difficulties sooner or later. However it is worth understanding that the lack of punishments does not mean at all that everything is permitted to the child.
To bring up it is loyal, important to follow the basic principles which will surely bear fruit:
- It is a difficult way, but everyone has to pass it.
- Love contrary to. Certainly, it is easier to shout and punish, than to understand the reasons of bad mood, behavior. In this scenario it is possible to see egoism of adults who, restraining the child, facilitate to themselves life.
- It is necessary to accept the kid with all his features. Also the feeling of own necessity is important for the child.
- Its shortage also generates disobedience. It is possible to solve problems with the help of a game, transferring a situation to images, more clear for children, characters. Walk with children more often, talk, ask their opinion.
- Recognition of the personality. Even very small child has the opinion, feelings which you should not neglect. It can affect identity negatively.
- Emphasis on a personal example. It is worth following the established rules all family. It is difficult to achieve, for example, that the child did not lie if he sees it in the house.
- To do without pressure. Excessive influence generates resistance. If the constant atmosphere of pressure is created, the child will try to be exempted from it.
- It is worth understanding that if today to disclose conditions, and tomorrow to break them, then the kid will simply get confused or will decide what can be broken after all.
- Do not remember punishments of the child long, and here seek for encouragement with big hunting. It is possible to use it for the good purposes.
- Parents have to aspire constantly to personal growth, to be interesting to the child.
It is necessary to understand that rebelliousness is a peculiar way of self-expression in the absence of freedom. The difficult periods of 3 years and awkward age will be especially significant. Add to the child gradually personal space, but not duties and reproaches.
The correct approach to education of children and to own life will help to make so that the child will be happy in family. You remember: that we did, children will resemble us.