Death of the loved one brings a lot of mental anguish, depresses. The reason refuses to accept the fact of the incident, the words of a consolation often do not make effective impact. However, despite all weight of a situation, it is necessary to continue to live further.
Death of the loved one: how to understand and accept it
The humility means acceptance of what happened. Stop to deny the event, you should not be angry for the whole world. Think that daily on Earth thousands of people die, from it not to get to anywhere, death is the natural end of life for any living being.
After someone from relatives dies, the person has a set of questions: who thought up death? For what it is necessary? Why my relative died? All these questions rhetorical, people set them for all lifetime of the world again and again. If you the believing person, you are able to receive answers to many of them, reading the Bible.
It is very hard to understand essence of death, its value to the ordinary person. Being born, he knows that he will surely die sooner or later, however most of people try not to think of it. Longing for someone from your relatives, think that in hundred years on Earth there will be no nobody left from living now, not one billion people will die. Perhaps, you will be not strongly consoled by this thought, but after all remember that nobody is eternal. It is worth taking into account and the fact that the universe is much more difficult, than it seems to people. Death for something is necessary – for spiritual experience, for transition to other world, other state, etc., depending on your belief and is the link inseparably linked with life.
How to cope with loss pain?
You keep love for the died person in heart, so you will always remember it. At first after loss to you it will be very heavy, but pain gradually will begin to become dull. Try to be distracted by some affairs, do not become reserved and the grief. Remember that you are not lonely in it, every day people lose the relatives who died for various reasons: the dead because of diseases or as a result of the accidents which died during the military conflicts which became the victims of the criminals who committed suicide, etc. Unite with other family members, together it will be easier for you to endure loss pain. Support each other, you aspire to that in your house there was a place and for positive emotions. If you believe in God, visit church, you pray for soul of the died person, order necessary rituals - memorial services, forty days' prayers for the peace of, etc. Find new hobbies, a hobby – learn a foreign language, learn to drive the car, etc. In a word, continue to live, remembering the close people who abandoned you with warm-heartedness.