Children are one of the most skillful manipulators. Even the smallest of them actively use methods of manipulation at communication with adults. It is unsurprising as kids are the most unprotected and dependent on adults. Manipulations – sometimes the only, easiest and easy way by means of which the child can achieve the desirable.
It works!
If you once suddenly found out that your child manipulates you, it is worth thinking at once of the behavior and the role in this situation. Having given the predominating value to the child's whims once, it is possible to implant for a long time in consciousness of the kid the manipulative scheme of behavior. Already once to the child will become enough, and he will understand: it works! Next time your child will try to obtain the by a similar method again and again. And it does not mean what the kid does to the mom to spite, thinking only of itself. Often everything occurs at the unconscious level. Just in the forefront, especially at early age, the child has it requirements. And often he is not guilty that mom or dad "taught" him to how it can satisfy these requirements.
Hardness and sincerity will help to improve the relations
If manipulations of your child are not connected with the basic biological needs, such as food, dream, need for mother's care and attention, then it is worth paying attention to it at once. If your child begins to roar and beat with legs about a floor, demanding mother's lipstick or the tenth candy, you should not be conducted in this case on a string at your child. Yes, sometimes can be difficult quietly to react to shouts and tears of the favourite kid, to feel like at the same time "bad mom", but you should not indulge any whim, of course, too.
It is more difficult to resist to children's whims in public places. However, if the matter is resolved in family, in your apartment, you are able to agree with the child and to resolve all issues by a peaceful manner, then it is possible to hope, as "in public" your child will not begin to roll up hysterics and ugly to behave. It is better to explain to the kid in advance as it is possible to behave and as it is impossible. At the same time be not afraid to be sincere and try to communicate with the child "as equals". And then you will have every chance of success. Further it will be possible to avoid many unpleasant moments, and the kid will not transfer an algorithm of manipulative behavior to adulthood.